Why men fear feminism

 

I have been talking to a lot of my male friends about this topic, younger, older, married, single.. some with blue collar jobs and some quite wealthy.. this was the main and the foremost reason given..

MEN FEAR FEMINISM BECAUSE THEY FEAR LOOSING POWER AND PRIVILEGE BECAUSE POWER , CONTROL,LEADERSHIP, AND DOMINANCE ARE SOCIETIES DEFINITION OF MANHOOD OR WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MAN.

So the answer to this problem is to redefine manhood. But that is a big problem, because that means we need to completely turn society on it’s ear. Because religion creates traditional beliefs  ( like men being the head of the household ) and puts these traditional beliefs into politics, that influence law and justice, governments and all social structures; including media that objectifies women and butchers the ideal of feminism into man hate. This fear ( man hate ) further propels us into a war of the sexes ( that is competition instead of co-operation ) between the sexes.

Men are taught to compete through sports and business; as we see a traditional media headline as MEN,POLITICS,SPORTS & BUSINESS 

 

So what does a guy do when he sees a woman as competing against his power and control but to attempt or to power and control over her, as men are socially conditioned to believe that they are entitled to this power and control. Men also have the added pressure from other men to keep power and control away from women, not to be powered over or controlled by women or he will be judged by other men as not living up to his manhood.

Now adding sex to the equation .. men are taught by society to objectify women, that having many women at hand makes them more of a man; so when a woman does the same as a man she is controlled by society by slut shaming towards making her way back into traditional roles. When a woman is in her sexual power; or being the same as a man, and not answering to the double standards she is then feared as disrespecting manhood in general. Men also see women asserting their sexuality as being sexually manipulative; using their sex to confuse and control him..and so he will view that as further competition against his manhood, as they say rape is about power and control not about the sex. For many men the sexual turn on has become the power, control and abuse of a woman way before the actual act of sexual intercourse. So when women want sexual freedom it is seen as a direct assault against his manhood, and that is why women worldwide are punished by society by the control of their sexuality. She is seen as having it coming to her for daring to compete.

So if this definition of manhood is the root cause of social strife, lack of justice and the evolution of the human condition; we need to redefine manhood as men protecting women. It seems to be deep within men’s biology to serve; to serve a purpose, that purpose being a higher purpose is to uphold and protect women and children not to power and control over them.

I think the biggest injustice to men; towards this old pattern of macho behaviors, is that it keeps men from becoming team players and builders, instead it teaches men to destroy as they concur for the pure sake of conquest.

If the war of the sexes continues the heart of humanity will die; it is dying, we need to evolve for the pure sake of psyche or soul.

As women we need to be firm but gentle with our men and boys; by understanding there is a shift of consciousness happening now, in these times. This evolution or change; growth can be a painful process for humanity; by placing blame upon each other we solve nothing. What we should be doing is learning from the problems, but not focusing on the problems; we need to be working as a team or as a whole by focusing on the solutions.

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