Why I don’t trust anyone in Kelowna

I have tried so hard to be friends with people in Kelowna.. in the business and networking community. But it seems to me that many of them are trying to find a reason to discredit me due to my website and blog.. many women from the networking community have asked me very personal questions about my sex life and my income.. as if trying to find out for gossiping purposes if I am a slut and a welfare mom. Or even if I am a whore.. like am I actually being paid for sex. Anyways the point is the hate.. it’s the absolute hatred that I have gotten from these people that is so shocking.. cruel and mean.Dayleen Van Ryswyk professed to be about helping me.. she did show up at my book signing at Chapters.. she did hold me a book signing at her own home.. but I became suspect to her intentions when she mentioned inviting Melonie Dodaro to the signing.. and I began to think ( Is she for me or against me? Is this some twisted form of entertainment for these women?) I just don’t know? I met her through Lori Welbourne’s facebook.. Lori also professed to be about my cause ( Women’s Rights and Sexual Equality ) yet Lori didn’t show up to the book signing and didn’t help me promote it.. even though she did have me on her radio show for a short bit?? As soon as Lori found out who I was by me joining her facebook and contacting her through.. Joel Young.. of all people a man who sexual harassed me.. Lori changed everything on her facebook and her videos to be about what I was about.. but never really promoting me.. yet she watched as other artist and people in the community bashed me on her facebook for being about these things.. I just don’t know what to think? I asked Lori right out why she didn’t help me more; why she turned and changed when she found out about what I was doing in our local community.. I was honest with her and asked her if she was trying to steal my thunder.. But after what Dayleen said to me on facebook.. after the fact of watching them comment on other people’s online profiles who were discriminatory against me??? I just don’t know? So I have withdrawn .. drawn my forces inward. I stopped following Lori, I obviously stopped all contact with Dayleen.. as she was intentionally cruel, using all of the things ( weaknesses that I confided to her ) to use as knives to stab me with.. I do know for sure that they are best friends.. and so it is hard not to line them up together.. for my own emotional safety.. but it isn’t just them .. no it is Kelowna’s networking society.. it is the arts community..it is Kelowna’s professionals and Kelowna’s professional women.. it is cattiness .. mean girl shit. Exactly why women have trouble breaking the glass ceiling ..they cut each other out from the ankles before they ever get that high.
  • Gracie Ackerman

    Will you and Ed please lay off about me being unemployed. It isn’t funny to me it is humiliating. Your last comment made me cry

  • Facebook User
    Facebook User

    No one meant to make you feel bad and were sorry if we did. On the flip side, you post about being at the beach all day and work out, then say you need a holiday from your life. To 99% of your FB friends who work crazy hours day in and day out, it’s a little much. From where we stand, your life looks like a holiday none of us can afford. You made it sound like you’re unemployed because I didn’t hire you. That made me feel bad. We like you very much and we support you immensely! Sorry if you felt like you were being ganged up on, I tried to keep it teasing not mean.

  • Gracie Ackerman
    Gracie Ackerman

    Dayleen you mean you and Ed work crazy hours.And my life seems like a holiday to the both of you. You cannot speak for my other Facebook friends. I don’t owe you are anyone a detailed run down of my daily life. We all have our inner and outer wars. I keep many things in my life private from my website and Facebook because it isn’t anyone’s business but mine

  • Gracie Ackerman
    Gracie Ackerman

    Calling me a drama queen was really hurtful. The things you both seem to be implying are hurtful. You don’t know were I have applied or the hours that I need so that i can still be with my kids. My will not p

    Awe fyck

    Fuck it whatever

  • Facebook User
    Facebook User

    I’m sorry you took that the wrong way. I’m supposed to understand that you are kidding but you don’t understand that I’m kidding. If you think that what you say doesn’t bother people, well, I’m not sure what to say.

  • Gracie Ackerman
    Gracie Ackerman

    I am sorry that you and Ed are over worked. I am sorry that you have to work so hard to pay legal bills that you shouldn’t have to pay. But it is not my fault and saying sarcastic things about me and my situation isn’t going to change that. Just like me lashing out isn’t going to change my situation. I have a lot to juggle with 3 kids and no family or financial help. I cannot go to work full time in the summer and put the burden of my 7 year old very busy son on my 2 tween and teen daughters. My ex will not pay for half the daycare with out me taking him back to court. That can take up to 6 months. Working to pay for daycare is pointless . I need a job were I can work weekends when he has the kids and 6 to 10 at night when Tyler is ready for bed and not such a hassle for my girls. It is complicated

  • Gracie Ackerman
    Gracie Ackerman

    But the thing is I don’t owe you or my Facebook friends an explanation about my job or financial situation that is what makes me mad. To insinuate that I am lazy hurts my feelings and is degrading. I am not a drama queen because I am passionate

  • Facebook User
    Facebook User

    Question, if you have no financial help. How do you live and raise a family and pay for a club membership with no job? I’m not judging, it’s just a legitimate question, because we work 7 days a week, 12-16 hours a day and it would be nice not too. Raising 3 kids by yourself is hard work and completely thankless. Before you know it, they’ll be grown and gone.

  • Gracie Ackerman
    Gracie Ackerman

    I just joined 888888 fitness and I am going to apply there because they are open 24/7 and it is right by were u live so I can race home to my kids if they need me

    Dayleen am not going to get into my finances with you or anyone

    I don’t think it is fair that you even ask me for an explanation as to were I get the money for my kids

  • Facebook User
    Facebook User

    Gracie, you seriously are reading WAY too much into what I said. You are turning something into something it isn’t. I was trying to keep it light hearted. Sorry you don’t think so. Maybe think before you post. Since you can’t seem to understand how your words come across to people.

  • Gracie Ackerman
    Gracie Ackerman

    Maybe it is the other way around

    Please just stop insinuating that I am lazy

  • Facebook User
    Facebook User

    I couldn’t give a shit where your money comes from. You miss the point vim done with this. You refuse to see how what you say effects other people. All you do it come across like a victim if anyone says anything. I have enough drama in my life!

  • Gracie Ackerman

    You, Ed, Daniel and Lori are off my Facebook now you will not be offended by my supposed victim post or how I live my life. Hope you all have a great life and I hope everything works out for all of you. No hate just done, done, done , done with people pleasing

  • Facebook User
    Facebook User

    After all I’ve done for you this is the thanks I get.

  • Gracie Ackerman
    Gracie Ackerman

    If letting you help me means being available for smug attacks on my character I would rather not have that friendship as I don’t see that as true friendship. I am better off on my own

  • Facebook User
    Facebook User

    People are right. You’re crazy! You’ve taken the simplest of things and made it into some attack on you. You aren’t right in the head! No one has attacked you..grow up!! Stop whining about looking after your own children, you wanted them! Get a job and get into reality. No one was against you. YOU are your own worst enemy. You’ve made sure no one likes you. You’ve made a fool of yourself. You’ve created drama where there isn’t any. You live in a fantasy world. You invite sexual advances because you present yourself as a desperate woman. You have ruined your business contacts. You have ruined your own reputation. You are completely unprofessional. You’ve made your life what it is. You are a narcissist. You need to change, your nuts..not everyone else..YOU! I put my business reputation on the line supporting you publicly and this crazy fucked up shit it the thanks I get. Grow the fuck up!!!

  • Gracie Ackerman

    Once again you could be anyone: just because you read the odd post of mine doesn’t make you an expert on my life. I suggest you get a grip; move on and go creep someone else online as a faceless/nameless thing?

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