My Knight in Shining Armor….doesn’t exist!

Facebook friends inspired this.. I just love it when others just tell you the truth strait up! I love that..

The truth is..when he does enter my life he is just gonna be an ordinary guy.. living a normal life..this is what ordinary guys do.. they forget birthdays, love porn.. snore..and leave their shit everywhere..that’s what they do.

And they look at other women..they try not to most of them..but it is in the cave man gene..and I think its is a real genetic trait..when I hot woman walks past the male brain turns off..his jaw drops and her turns instantly into an ape..and if you want a real relationship with a have to look past his faults and weaknesses if you expect him to look past yours..

The point is and women think and react differently to stuff..women are more emotional…we are full of hormones to help us bond with our babies and to help us nurture the old.. some women are chemically wired to think more like men and some men have the ability to be a little more feminine in there ways and thinking..but for the most part men just don’t have it in them to second guess our emotions like we want them to..

And if he or she is so fricken perfect..if they give off they can do no wrong..stay away it just a a few months those masks come off the social mask..and the prettier the mask..the more fightening it will be when it does come off..cause your in for a hard fall into a the concret floor of reality.. trust me.. I fell for this crap many times..

A friend of mine on facebook told me not to wish for a knight in shining armor as only a dork in tinfoil would show up..and yup she was right.. not soon after a dork showed up and took me for a ride on his trusty steed of illuision.. I hate that… what a bunch of crap..cause in the end you only have yourself to a man is only a man and a woman is only a woman.

If he is looking for me to secong guess his every need.. he needs to grow the fuck up..and if I expect Mr. Romance… I need to grow the fuck up too… cause like a facebook friend just said to me.. your happiness is up to you… TRUTH!

I love the truth.

So he may be a great guy..but he has his faults.. he will not know sometimes when I need to be I have to think like a guy and just tell him.. no playing games of ” guess what I need from you and if you don’t I am going to pout in the corner”.. no just tell the poor guy you need a fricken hug!

So he looks at other women..if he isn’t cheating and telling you too look like another woman or compairing you constantly to other what!..and a little jelousy can make for some hot sex.. we all need to just grow up.. me to.. just starting to.

The piont is that if he is worth it he will see that I am worth it and the other way around..

Mr. Perfect would be boring as hell anyway! ;)

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  • Scott Mitchell

    Every woman should have that from her man. Unfortunately I was a little bad doing it for the perfect woman for me, my angel eyes, and then it was too late. Now I try to cover the pain of loss and replace everything with cover-blanket. Nice write up here. Thanks for sharing it

    • Grace

      I think that we all get caught up in the dream.. love is as imperfect as the people who share it.. once we stop trying to make it into what it can not be.. we can experience true love.. the real deal. You and I are not perfect.. If I were to truly love you.. I would need to forgive you..and accept you for you.. and you would need to do the same for me.

      • Scott Mitchell

        It’s true what you say and surprisingly related to the situation I had in a strong way. I was refusing to meet some demands to change myself because of past experience and I was calling her out on her control tendencies. I just wanted us both to believe in and accept each other as I was doing for her. But, she needed more. Anyway… :)

  • Grace

    I am learning to love myself..that what my entire blog is about..just like my writing it is a journey… I have learned… if I am not accepted for me.. I am not loved… we are all a contradition..this is the heart of creation… to truly love and be loved..we must accept the parts of ourselves that are unlovable to make them loveable..and we should strive to do this for the others that we love as well.. I have discovered in my writing journey that this is deep and mature love..

    You and me..everyone of us deserved to be love as we are.. :)

  • Franz

    Hello Grace,
    lost your blog since I had to replace my hard drive on my mac.
    I believe that true happiness come from within. Everything around us should be the addition the icing. If the icing sucks don’t eat it. Try a different one, since why would you you want to spoil a perfectly happy self?
    Looks like i have a lot of catching up to do.
    Hope you are well.

  • Grace

    nice to hear from you again Franz.. I was wondering were you had gone.. if you loose my blog address again you can google me now.. at gracieackerman.. I will pop right up…

    The meaning behind this post.. is that I have to accept that men are people to.. baggage and all just like me ;)

  • Franz

    That we are, people too. Talk soon :-)

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