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Best Selling Author

I told myself I wasn’t going to write on my blog this morning..told myself I was going to relax on my leather couch and enjoy my morning coffee..savor my strong coffee while my kids slept..before I had to get them up for school.. I always get up a few hours before them.. I have researched that this is a trait of successful people ;)

But I got to thinking..about how many people in my local professional community call themselves best selling authors.. of course it just sounds good on LinkedIn..and it is a resume; self professed slight of hand.. These are the ( successful ) people in the organizations that have basically banded me from joining them due to the ( sexual content of my book ) because obviously my book is better LOL… and they wouldn’t want me to actually reach media and become an actual best selling author.. past their dribble.. most of them are just stealing from other’s who have written books before them about success and the steps of success.. copying from men like Richard Brandson… or ( Stealing like Artists ) from books like the Secret.. Just love their terminology.. ” Stealing like Artists ” Jerks..

But to really put it into perspective.. ( I just love perspective ) to take away from the smoke and mirrors of their organizations..and groups.. where they all talk each other up ( lie to each other ).. Kelowna is a little tiny fishbowl compared to the entire world.. and if you have made it big in Kelowna.. well really your nothing new at all.. because to make it big in Kelowna you have to pretend to be someone else.. so when they use the terminology of being ” authentic ” it’s truly laughable.. they dress the same.. talk the same speal..because it’s an old sales man’s trick.. it’s like selling knives out of the back of your truck.. or selling a $100 vacuum for $800 bucks..

So what does a REAL best selling author look like.. well.. how about Stephen King or J.K. Rowling..because guess what  ? you all actually heard about them! ..they are on the world stage.. because even being a best selling self published author on Amazon.ca; really in reality, it means shit!.. SHOW ME THE MONEY!.. get a grip!

In my second to last post I wrote about what successful people think and do..the actions that they take.. a part of having reason.. is to face reality..if you don’t start from directly were you are at.. by the ground on which you stand.. you cannot change or effect that reality.. so if you are full of shit.. calling yourself what you are not.. you will always be full of shit.. good luck changing that.. you will be the small fish in a small fishbowl with other small fish…because you refuse to see the small fishbowl.. you will always be trapped.. your not going to risk taking a leap of faith and jumping from the small fishbowl into reality or the great big sea..because that’s just scary.. it’s way more comforting to believe your own bullshit and the bullshit of others around you saying ” Wow.. we are really big fish!”

So here is my reality.. I am not a best selling author at all.. I can’t swim with the other little fishies even.. they don’t like my bright colors.. I don’t fit in..and I don’t go along with the vacuum sales man’s speal .. I keep it real.. they don’t like that at all.. I see an elephant in the room.. I say ” Elephant’s in the room ” they say ” Don’t come to our networking groups.. we can’t make you not come..but we really don’t want you there ” poor little fishies..

But here is the thing.. I know I am in a deficit with my book.. I have rocked some people’s reality in the little fishbowl of Kelowna BC by offering up a world view of world problems.. the problem that I show is the solution.. but they love pre-packaged processed messages that they can steal like artists from..

Me as Venus. From my book ( The Goddess, an Expression of the Divine Feminine ) about women’s empowerment through the emancipation of their sexuality.. repression caused by religious dogma

The point is.. I am facing reality.

What did I do that was so different that it is offensive to them.. I wrote about book about women’s sexuality.. I wrote about my own sexuality as an example.. I used professional photography in the book..and am the model in the book as the Goddess Archetypes.. and I am topless just like the classic paintings of the Goddess..of Venus and such.. and because no famous person did it before me..because it is my own creation.. it makes me a slut LOL

here is the link to my failure.. my book.. the best thing I ever failed at.. the failure that I love.. I love my baby anyway.. even if other’s don’t ( yet )

http://bookstore.balboapress.com/Products/SKU-000576933/The-Goddess-an-Expression-of-the-Divine-Feminine.aspx

Successful Thinking and Doing

1. Initiative  - self motivation..can you make it past the process of just thinking about or daydreaming about your dreams.. do you have an action plan.. do you TAKE the action!

2. Accountability – can you accept and pinpoint your own strengths and weaknesses..do you know your addictions? Do you know your obsessive attitudes? ” To your own self be true. Know yourself ” Self awareness..are you conscious of your personality..do you let your story own you or do you use your life lessons to gain insight and wisdom.. can you say you are sorry? Do you know your ego.. can you rein yourself in? Self control is the key to great destiny.

3. Cognitive reasoning – can you pinpoint the problem? Can you find the solutions within the problem..do you see the problem as the solution? Can you break apart a situation to re-create a better out come..do you know when to let go when something isn’t working.. can you reason that sometimes other’s have no reasoning so you must let them be and move on? Create method from madness.

4. Emotional Distance – Do you have the wisdom and the discernment to know when it’s not your problem but the problem that someone has with in them that they are projecting onto you..can you see life through a scientific lens as an observer .. can you rise above the drama.. ?

5. Faith – do you have faith or belief in the project? Do you believe that the product is useful? Do you believe in yourself past the naysayers? Do you see the light at the end of the tunnel.. can you see the project or product as being bigger than just you with your name on it? Do you believe it will help others and humanity?

6. Your Personal Definition of Success – is it to gain money and fame.. or is it to create a product, project or movement to help humanity evolve? Is your success defined by living the dream and the journey of the dream vs the ultimate successful completion of the dream..seeing it fully manifested.. is your success defined by being one of the few who have had the courage to dream the dream; and then actually take action towards manifesting the dream within, into the material world? Does your dream surpass material wealth? The best way to define your success is to imagine yourself on your death bed.. would you have no regrets? Did you live your life to it’s greatest possible potential.. did you grow.. did you expand.. did you love and learn..did you find your bliss in the journey vs just the destination?.. if the answer is yes.. you have already reached success..if the answer is no.. keep reaching for the stars..

Dream big.. life is for the living

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