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How Sacred Sexuality Promotes Healthy Sexuality

Unhealthy sexuality is defined by the fact that it causes sexual dysfunction like perversion. Perversion can be defined as obsessive and repulsive acts like having sex with animals, pedophilia, necrophilia, rape.. etc. Sexual addiction is also unhealthy sexuality as it becomes self destructive. Sexual addiction completely takes over a person’s life, like all other addictions they live their lives totally out of balance for the next rush or high that they get from sex. Sexually transmitted diseases are obviously another form of unhealthy sexuality and the more random one’s partners the higher the risk towards becoming infected with multiple STDs.

Sacred sexuality teaches us to temper our lusts with wisdom and love. Through a spiritual lens we understand the body and it’s practical functions as also sacred and holy. Sex is never just sex as it is the energy of two souls becoming alchemised as one. Lust for the sake of just pure animal impulses is seen as lower or dense energy.. lust that is channeled into love through the bridge of emotional intimacy can be used to create a long lasting and meaningful relationships. By seeing sex as sacred we make what would be seen religiously as profane, holy. But by being selective with whom we share our bodies and soul’s energy with we also create a physically healthy sexuality and emotionally healthy sexuality.

Sacred sexuality isn’t steeped in the dogma of religion or even in the dogma of tantra …. but in the practicality of the wisdom of seeing the flesh and soul as one.

The issue with having too many sexual partners is becoming numb towards true intimacy.. seeing sex as simply a physical act can make many people learn over time to push away or deny their emotions towards the people that they are having sex with.. and that is why in today’s ” Hook up ” culture society as a whole has become intimacy deprived or even retarded. By calling society emotionally retarded it means that we have become impaired towards making emotional and even intellectual connections in our personal romantic relationships, because we have learned over time to deny our emotions. We have learned through the hook up culture to deny our hearts desires to deeply, and intimately connect to one another on a soulful level.

With leaving the heart and soul out of sexuality we have forgotten how to be sensual and empowered by our sexuality rather than to be driven by it, channel it rather than have it drive us off course towards dysfunction and addiction.

Sex is powerful energy and we must learn to use it wisely and to respect it as a force of nature.. much like fire ..if you play with it and handle it without respect and care you will get burned by it.

The rule of sacred sex is that it does no harm to you or to others; not just on a physical level but on an emotional level. The problem with having sex for just the sake of lust is that eventually someone gets hurt physically with disease or emotionally by being denied the love of the other. There is always cause and effect in the Universe.. eventually the karma of what you have denied for the sake of lust will catch up and connect with you towards an intense spiritual lesson.. so be responsible towards how you play with the deep cosmic energy of sexuality, by being conscious and aware we can use our sexuality to create a heaven on earth.. in a practical and spiritual sense.

 

Being Gay and The Divine Feminine

I am reeling emotionally from the events or mass slaughter in the gay night club ” The Pulse” in Orlando Florida. These events directly relate to me because gay men carry The Divine Feminine essence in that they are more Feminine, and by being more Feminine they take on the submissive role. We see in our male based society the fear of the Feminine energy as being weak..and by being weak it must be destroyed to prevent the destruction of a male powered society. We see the feminine sexual energy driven out of society by women fearing to be feminine or to be womanly..as they will be targeted to be made into victims for asking for it.. we see a male based culture that is totally out of balance causing mass destruction of all that is feminine including gay men.

We see the killer as possibly being gay himself, and because of his Muslim, patriarchal.. male based religion; being internally at odds.. causing him to kill off the sexuality he feared within himself by inflicting that death on 50 others around him. But this internal sexual conflict doesn’t just exist in the killer .. for he is a metaphor for a society that is at odds within it’s self..he is the internal battle that takes up within the souls of many. Many whom have been brainwashed by thousands of years by multiple different religions that claim women’s sexuality and gay sexuality as evil and vile. The Whore of Babylon a abomination to the Church.. The Whore a representation of free female sexuality.. and Sodom and Gomarrah the city of homosexual sin that was destroyed by an all mighty male God.. as you can see all that is Feminine is deserving of death, judgment and torture.. these teachings, or even just metaphors to some.. ingrained deep within each and every one of us subconsciously..and so we are in an internal conflict.. most all of society denying the simple pleasures of the flesh due to fear and guilt. We fear the punishment of others..and so many of us unknowing pass those judgments onto others least we should be judged by others or least we should judge ourselves.. for the Feminine is weak..and we should kill what is weak..and the masculine is strong and knows what is right and wrong.. and if we follow the judgments and dogma of religion..and call others witches, fags and whores, we will be safe from judgement ourselves..it is insane and it is crazy.. but most of it is unconscious even to those who profess no religion or belief system..because it is seeped into media and the Government Systems..

And so we see women who hide behind layers of fat to stay safe.. I am not talking about the curvy women that own the skin they are in and walk in confidence.. no I am talking about the majority of women who use food as sex because it keeps them safe from having sex, liking sex and being sexy.. if you are fat you are less of a target. We see women who are walking bags of bones because they are afraid to have boobs, hips and curves least they should become too sexy and to ripe.. or targets for rape and sexual harassment.. then there are women who dress and act like men in the office or at the gym.. being told that to do so is to respect themselves.. to become like men in a male world is not to bring sexual attention towards yourself…because if you are looking feminine, sexy or beautiful you are asking for that attention.. the attention of being called a whore, easy, slut .. you are not to be taken seriously because sexy women are stupid women.. they deserve it.. and gay men that are openly gay, whom are being feminine are asking for it too.. because they are submissive and like women they like to be penetrated and those that are penetrated are the submissive victims.. and so all that is Feminine in nature is a victim that should be used and discarded at the will of the more masculine ..

And so this is why I have an affection for gay men.. as a woman promoting and being in my Divine Feminine Essence.. I have been made a victim of and then blamed for being a victim for being soft, yielding and open.. as have gay men.. and that is why our culture has grown blood thirsty and cold of heart.. because when the Feminine shines she is shot down in night clubs in cold blood.. when the Goddess rises in dance, in the pursuit of pleasure and all that is pleasurable she is shot down in cold blooded rage by those who are in inner turmoil themselves.. out of balance and out of touch with their own Inner Goddess..

And that is why The Goddess stands with gay men.. because they are an essence of her.

 

A Single Mother and Sex

 

I am just in the mood to share my thoughts on what it’s like to be a single mother that gives a fuck. I give fuck about living a good life,  about my kids, my work, my body and my fitness. I give a fuck about spiritual enlightenment and about real people. There are many things I don’t give a fuck about. I don’t give a fuck about shallow, boring people and their bullshit, small talk. I don’t give a fuck about high school drama played out by adults in their mid 20s and up.. grow the fuck up.. until then not one fuck is given by me. I don’t give a fuck about the party lifestyle. I don’t give a fuck about people that make excuses. I don’t give a fuck about pity parties..and I don’t give a fuck about other single moms that put fucking asshole boyfriends ahead of their kids. I don’t give a fuck about weak ass women.,, women who do everything for men ..and nothing for their own sake or the sake of their children. I give a fuck about the things and people that matter.. the things that make you stronger.. the things that cause you to improve… I give a fuck about people who give a fuck about people and things that matter..for the rest; not one fuck is given.. ( and so I ramble ) but I don’t give a fuck because it feels good to speak my mind..and that is why I am still single. I need a man who can take it.. strait up like a shot of 100 proof truth.. I don’t want a man that needs me to become some weak bitch to make him feel like a man he obviously is not.

And so it is, that I don’t have sex and haven’t for quite sometime..but when I become interested in a guy and he starts to put his bullshit and baggage on me.. I don’t think carrying all of his past relationships and insecurities ..is worth the cock .. honestly.. there always seems to be some fucking karma involved and some other stupid girl that stalks his ass..or girls..and I think to myself ” fuck it” Because I love my mind, free and clear.. I love to think about shit like this..about writing on my blog as some rogue bad girl..misbehaving .. swearing like I own my freedom.. screaming out on text like some wild little wolf pup howling into the wind.. this is my voice.. I don’t want to give it up..for some cock LOL ( ha that made me burst out laughing like some crazy thing ) I like being crazy Gracie.. I love it and I love myself.. I don’t want some guy putting me into a box for some cock LOL..it’s just not worth it.. but of course the catch is; I like sex..but I don’t want it to be used against me to own my mind and emotions to feed some guys pathetic ego. Why do guys need to be worshiped? I don’t have the time for that shit..or rather I don’t want to spend my time worrying about if my man is going to stick his cock in that woman that flirts with him.. the one that feeds his ego more than I do..or more than I could ever want to.. I just don’t want to do it.. I want to go to the gym.. I want to write funny shit.. I want to meditate or paint or dance.. but yes it would be nice to have sex.. but why the hell does it have to cost me the freedom of being a free woman? Why the hell do guys think that to be my man he has to take up space in my head.. I feel smothered.. I am an intellect.. an artist, a free spirit.. I just can’t be a nice, well behaved girl just so that he will keep bringing his cock to me..and not put it in other girls who dumb it down just for him..

And then.. young guys or older guys ..or guys my age..

young guys want to party..

guys my age are bitter and mad at the ex wives..

older men ..well they are boring as hell..

Tis the conundrum ..the catch 22.. and because I give a fuck about the stuff that matters ( while not giving a fuck about the stuff that doesn’t ) I give a shit about love.. *Oh* there is just no winning here!

And then guys say stupid shit like ” If women made us step up by having us chase them instead of throwing themselves at us we would date women and be more romantic” I call bullshit on that..stop blaming us for your immaturity..a man needs something to chase.. my ass.. because once he has got it;  he is keeping his options open for the  next best piece of ass..because variety is the spice of life you know?

I am sorry this doesn’t come off as intellectual banter tonight..but I am a woman and so I have my moods..and tonight I am feeling like just doing whatever the fuck I want..if I had a man in my life do you think I could? Don’t you think he would be looking over my shoulder asking ” What are you writing about babe? Holy fuck you can’t write about that.. you sound like a foul mouthed bitch.. you should take out the swearing.. you should say intimacy instead of sex.. don’t put in a sexy pic either.. I don’t want guys looking at your tits.” so the question is.. is some cock worth it?

The Goddess

( From the book ~ The Goddess an Expression of the Divine Feminine ~ ) Available on Amazon.ca

MAD

 

I am mad because I am done with being judged as a woman!

 

I am mad because society has no compassion.

 

I am mad because all the tenderness and the kindness of humanity is locked behind selfishness and greed.

 

I am so sick of men trying to make me into either a virgin or a whore! I am sick of it; what the heck is up with that?

 

Women are either puritan or porn star. You’re the guy’s mother or his tramp!

 

A tramp is a woman that likes and wants sex; his mother is the opposite, you see to all his other needs and then lay down and go through the motions; telling him and yourself your doing it for him so you’re not a tramp.

 

Of course women who are single mothers; looking for a man are just trashy! How dare a single mother like me not make her kids her only priority? God forbid that I should need and want my basic needs for love and partnership met! God forbid that I want someone to share my life with; someone to laugh with, cry with and yes have sex with; I would rather say it as having someone to make love to and be made love to; but NO, that’s just being man crazy and a bad freaken mother!

 

Double fricken standards put on women by society; Sex is dirty or pure; that’s bullshit! It isn’t either! Sex is a way that two people come together to build and maintain intimacy and it is a physical release. Why can’t we all just grow up!?

 

Why do we have to make things evil or good? Why can’t we just see things for the way they are? Gees ya know? It’s just so childish the way we have to label everyone as either good or bad when we ourselves are both! We are all human; we have a basic need for love and to be touched physically.

 

It is the taboo that we put on sex that makes it dirty or pure; it is our childish perspectives; Gawd we need to get a grip!

 

Society needs to grow up! We need to stop telling women to be plastic freaks, with Botox filled faces and fake boobs; starving ourselves to look the way we are told is attractive.

 

Men;  you guys have got to start seeing women as people with souls and hearts that are easily broken; a woman’s heart is as tender as her breast; we are so fragile we need love and tenderness! We need to be held and heard and seen!

 

The human body is a miracle in its self; it is creation’s finest work of art; it is beautiful, sensual and amazing. We treat our bodies like crap! We eat crap! We don’t exercise enough! Or we go to the other polar opposite and we starve and over work ourselves for fashion and not for HEALTH!

 

We are out of balance.. Everything is black or white; good or evil. We don’t have any compassion for the fallen soul… even though we are all fallen and imperfect.

 

I just want to know where is the love?

 

I myself am so sick of being looked at and sized up; I am bad mom cause I am sexy and free spirited..why? How do people jump to that?

 

I am writing my book to show that women can be sexual; be mothers; be grandmothers; be professionals; WE CAN BE WHAT WE WANT! Oh it is said to us; but in our repressed society it is not true; we are not given that room; we are still fighting for our freedom to be people in our own right. If I am a mother it doesn’t mean I turn into a child again because I have children. It is like society is afraid that if a mother is a sensual being she is messing up her kids; but the opposite is true; to be repressed sexually is to teach your children the same damn thing.

 

What is being sexual; IT IS IN YOUR TRUE NATURE…gawd!

 

It doesn’t make you are dirty; God made men and women to fit into each other or if you don’t believe in God then science and nature did that! And so being the civilized humans that we are supposed to be means that we can express our sexuality with dignity.. *sigh*

 

Diginity; meaning that we honor our sexuality; understand it’s importance while not hurting ourselves and others with uncontrolled urges. So that means not to become so entrenched in your sexuality that it becomes an addiction; meaning sex is all you live for and think about constantly; because life should be lived in balance for health; emotional, spiritual, physical and mental health.

 

But to be aware and proud of your sexuality is perfectly healthy!

 

Being ashamed of the human body is ignorant; being ashamed of your own body is insecurity and self-defeating.

 

The way to love your own body is to take care of your body and to do away with media hype and learn to accept and love your imperfections…damn it!

 

I just hope by writing this book that I can show humanity how to live in health and compassion.

 

Women’s sexuality is totally misrepresented in the media; we are still seen as plastic dolls that are bad girls if we like sex and seek sex out; we are tramps and we deserve to be used my men cause we like sex.. It’s crap! Good girls are shown as being there just for a man’s comfort and needs.. Period! It’s crap!

 

Women do like sex with love… we need tenderness; we need not to be held up to an impossible standard by our men.. We need to take the time to look after ourselves and love our bodies; without guilt trips for caring and nurturing ourselves and not just everyone else.

Beautiful Menstrual Blood

 

There is power in the blood..but it isn’t in the blood of Jesus..it was in the blood of Mary, of Isis and of Inanna.. she didn’t come from his rib..he has always come from her womb..and he also had a womb within her womb.. from 0 to 8 weeks of gestation inside the womb.. he was a she..and so it is The Goddess lives within the man..and so it is that he is always trying to find away to get back home to her..but he has lost his way in attempting to claim the power of the womb for himself.. ( The Patriarchy ) are the men whom have gone astray from The Great Mother by trying to claim her blood or womb for themselves..for their own power plays.. or ego fears that if women come into the power of their wombs ..the power of life..the cradle of life that exists within them..that they would do as the egocentric Patriarchy do..and that is to use the sacred blood to control all humanity for the sake of power and greed..and so they shamed the blood of The Great Mother..and made her sex evil; she was made to cover her nursing breasts.. and not allowed to enter the male based religious temples while she bleed..as she was labeled unclean and dirty.. and so it is to this very day women are shamed into covering up..to cleaning up.. the organic nature of their nurturing, dripping fertility ..their gold.. their treasure.. buried in shame..and that is why I am writing this post as I bleed..

Today I loved myself..as I felt my body get ready to shed my red velvet lining.. like the lining of a treasure chest.. I felt very emotional.. listening to classical music; I felt my bottom lip quiver ..as the music fit so tenderly with my tender heart and womb.. I was wakened in the middle of the night with cramps..and crazy dreams.. and I knew.. it was time to be tender with myself..

Every time I bleed I think of my past pregnancies..and I think about how my children grew inside of me using my blood for a bed.. using my body for comfort and food..and because my breast are tender like they were during pregnancy, I think about how much I loved nurturing each one of my children with my breast milk.. I think about how my body and every women’s body is a wonderland.. is magic.. how sensual we are.. just like the Earth herself..how she holds our lives by the dirt under our feet..that what we think of as dirty like menstrual blood..is organic and fertile.. and I feel intense emotion and love for The Great Mother..and I feel one with her.. and I feel that I am lying at her breasts.. nestled in her great cradle of life..and I think women’s blood is gold… golden and rich with possibilities ..

But then I remember all the shame I encountered as a young woman..only being 10 when I first bleed.. the shame put onto me by society.. not to smell like blood, not to leak blood.. not show the lump in my paints that my pad made.. how horrible gym was.. how awful the boys were.. how intolerant and even cruel male teachers could be.. I remember feeling that way into my 20s.. how sad a society that we treat girls and woman like dirty little things.. for having wombs and breasts..for having the power within them to create life..to chose to nurture life or not to ..

Now I am 45..and I have bled for 35 years..and now that I know my blood is sacred.. now that I know my blood is magic..soon I will enter a new phase..the dark moon phase of The Goddess.. when my womb will no longer bleed.. but now my womb has taught me wisdom..and that is The Dark Moon Phase.. I am wise.. wise to the ways of the womb and the blood.. and it is my place to teach the Maidens.. those entering into the New Moon Phase.. to teach them to honor their blood.. to see their blood as sacred .. of ancient red gold.. to teach new mothers in the Full Moon Phase of The Goddess.. to nurse uncovered.. to nurse without shame.. to wear the pregnant bellies without shame.. to love their round Full Moon..and flowing Milky Way breasts..as the Milky Way is the Milk of Isis..

And It is my duty to teach men who are conscious and ready… ready to be initiated into the ways of The Great Mother..ready to come home to the womb.. it is my duty as a Goddess.. to show them the way back to their MOTHER .. away from controlling and shaming women.. to honoring, loving and supporting The Goddesses in their lives.. this is the way to his Godhead..to his Inner God.. to see the sacredness in the womb.. the womb that birthed him..the womb he longs for.. the womb that was once his very own..while he lived within the womb.. and this is the infinite wisdom of the ancients.. let it be birthed again through the blood… for we will be saved by the blood of The Goddess… by her compassion.

What I think about God

We are Gods.. we create this reality.. God is in words and in forms or symbols that we create because we are the Gods creating Gods outside of ourselves.. once humanity realizes that we are the Gods, that we create, then we can move forward towards our true evolution..because once we all accept this as fact and accept the sciences .. we will create a reality that is conscious.. but because most of the human race lives by superstition we remain unconscious towards our own divine nature.. ( you know it’s wisdom because it’s damn simple )

Q. ” Why does the cage bird sing?”

A. ” Because it is in it’s nature to sing.. when the bird stops singing it’s dead ”

The riddle or metaphor.. Humanity is killing it’s self by denying it’s own true nature through religious repression.. humanities repressed sexual nature turns to wars inside the subconscious and therefore manifests outside of the individual consciousness towards the wars of nations and the sexes.

If the answer to humanities problems or lack of evolution is continually denied..it will eventually lead to us destroying our own species … the answer is to not deny our own nature or biology .. this creates harmony and life vs death from lack of thriving due to repression..

See how simplistic wisdom is…

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Time for some erotica

She sat in his office.. looking beautiful.. a chaotic mess in a dress.. close to tears.. but she trusted him..she was comfortable with him.. ” Why do they reject me.. why do they resent me?” she asked him in sobs.. blue/green eyes on the verge of exploding into tears of passion and rage.. He spoke to her softly ..with gentleness he said ” You threaten them with your potent sexuality.. you are ahead of your time.. you make them feel insecure .” Tears began to roll down her checks.. as he spoke the words she knew were the truth..the truth she dreaded because she didn’t know how to be anything else but what she was.

” But I don’t know how to hold it in. I don’t know how to hold it back.. I have a fever in me..a passion that burns me up and it burns them too doesn’t it?” She curled her legs up to her chest.. kicking her high heeled open toed shoes onto the floor with a thud.. the strap of her cream colored summer dress slid seductively onto her shoulder.. he tried not to notice.. he reminded himself to stay professional.. neutral.

But when she started to sob he couldn’t help but cross the room to sit beside her and rub her shoulders. She looked up into his dark brown eyes.. his eyes so dark they reflected back to her.. her own tear filled gaze.. she saw her sorrow in his eyes.. and he saw her see it.. he took her into her arms ” Gloria..” he said sweetly and tenderly.. “You will find someone.. you will find someone that gets you.” She rested her head on his strong shoulder.. and and leaned into his lap.. ” Please just hug me for a while Frank.” and so he did.. getting lost in her scent..in her warmth..in the softness of her shoulders that he continued to message ..and then he placed his chin on her silky hair..just then she turned her head and their lips brushed.. so lightly .. yet with such heat.. he lost control and kissed her.. the kiss was claiming..and the fire was ignited.. there was no turning back..

She pressed her firm breast against his dress shirt.. his hands slid under the other strap of her summer dress exposing her shoulders and he kissed down her neck.. she begged him not to stop..she said ” I need you.. I need you to make love to me with tenderness and love.. I need you to heal my shattered heart.”  He exposed her soft round breast .. and then the other..bringing her dress down to her waist.. he cupped them both as she graceful tossed her head and hair back..arching as he took her hard nipples into his mouth.. he took his time giving her the pleasure she so longed for..

Then, in her need to have his chest exposed she clawed frantically at his tie and shirt… and he then helped her undress him.. and all at once he pulled her dress to the floor.. they kissed and necked as she reached for his hard erection through is pants ” Gloria .. Gloria ” he panted.. he moaned ” We should stop Gloria..this is so unprofessional of me… but I can’t stop unless you stop me.. I just can’t stop.” She unzipped his pants ” I won’t stop you Frank.. don’t stop Frank.. I won’t tell anyone.. make love to me.. I need you” She clawed his pants down..and sank to her knees in front of him.. she took is member in her hands.. his sweet, silky firm shaft.. she looked up at him lovingly as she took him in between her soft wet.. full lips.. he groaned as he felt her tongue stroke and pull on him… when he knew he was close.. he picked her up and placed her on his couch… and then he used his tongue on her.. she lay open and vulnerable for him.. totally exposed..sweet and sexy.. like the most exotic fruit.. they made eye contact as his tongue made contact .. he said ” I am not stopping until you beg me too.” because she trusted him; she had multiple orgasms.. big beautiful orgasms that she lost her heartache in.. she withered and screamed out his name..she cried with relief and bliss..as he did what all the others feared to do.. he loved her instead of hurting and mocking her.. he mended all the sorrow.. and then she begged him..” Please .. Please .. Please Frank I need you inside of me!!!”.. he rose..and stood above her..

He thrust deeply and with intensity.. making eye contact with her.. he was fully present for her.. for her pleasure but also for his own.. she was swollen and engorged .. every stroke was fire.. and every scream spoke of the passion between them… she had so much frustration..and he had repressed his feelings for her for far too long..they were an explosion of passion and pure rapture..

The pain and sorrow were long forgotten ..all that was left..was this pure bliss.. a white hot flame.

Angel of Sex

 

Many will find the title of this post quite alarming. I am using it to open up my readers subconscious towards seeing sex as sacred not sinful or dirty. The concept of the Goddess or The Sacred Whore is to see sexuality as a medium towards spiritual bliss. Religions teach us through the dogma of sin to divorce the flesh from the spirit; by doing so we are lost from the magic of knowing the wisdom that the body is the temple and sex is the altar upon which we worship.. and so I am metaphorically being the Angel of Sex by bring enlightenment to the world by my work here on this site and in my book ( The Goddess an Expression of the Divine Feminine ) available at this link http://bookstore.balboapress.com/Products/SKU-000576933/The-Goddess-an-Expression-of-the-Divine-Feminine.aspx 

lately I have had a few hundred men join my Facebook in the last 48 hrs; it is a bit phenomenal. I am not sure why exactly; someone told me that Facebook may have put me up as a suggestion for men. Many of them have gotten the wrong impression of course; I am not shocked by that, as society labels women who are expressing their sexuality as just asking for attention or just asking for it. But I think the majority of them are learning that I am promoting a book about women’s sexuality.. about the repression of women’s sexuality and the shame put onto us all about sexuality.. I am not attempting to get male attentions simply to feed my ego, but I do want attention for the promotion of my book. I see sexuality as natural, and so I don’t see using all of my talents including my natural sexual nature to sell my intellect as shameful..and so I will not be made to feel that way as I will not allow it.

So that I many promote the movement of smashing the barriers put on women’s sexuality and on sexuality as a whole I must walk my talk ..so I must walk out of the shame myself by shamelessly expressing my own sexuality as I am..And to me that is through art and writing.. I see my own personal photography as art and expression.. I see sex as art. Creativity of all forms is metaphorically sex.. as it gives both pleasure and pain, and it creates metaphorical children of ideals.

For me the highest expression of the spirit is love and intellect.. it’s through wisdom and love that we are saved from ignorance.. the sin placed on sexuality is the sin that creates it’s self as it causes humanity to remain in darkness..it causes inequalities like the war of the sexist and homophobia.. the sin placed upon sex creates hate instead of love..and for me hate is the true sin.. but also sin is only lessons that we have yet to learn.. The Golden Age of Humanity will come into fruition when we accept our natural  sexual nature.. and it will be then that we become truly equal.

As for me.. I am a one man woman. I don’t need all the attention of the men in the world to feed a shallow ego..I need but one good man to love me and to love..

I am making myself beautiful for myself and I am working on myself for him.. I am becoming my best self to attract a great man.. he is all I will ever need or want.

Religion the root of injustice

 

Want to get to the point directly; religion is a battle tactic or strategy. It was created by old world royalty and emperors to control the masses or surfs through fear. All three of the most popular world religions were created as a tool of diversion. It’s obviously genus as it has keep us; the people at each other for 1000s of years. It’s simple really; if you give a few people the false sense of superiority over a few other people, they will do the dirty work for you. And so men were given privilege over women as ( the head of the household ) by men becoming the head or the brain of the family they were given control over wealth, social status and sexual freedoms.. this has obviously kept men and women fighting ..and by keeping things unhappy in the home, the powerful become more powerful.. it’s like this.. a thief comes into a city to steal the livestock..but to divert the people away he sets a fire in the middle of the city.. while the people are busy putting out the fire.. he steals the livestock.. but even better yet, thief creates a rumor that the women took the livestock to gain power over men.. or it was the black people.. or the homosexuals.. do you get the picture?

We love the good in religion ( love everyone as you love yourself ) ( God is love ) but in order to get God’s love or favor to save us from hell’s fire.. we must condemn and murder those who may lead us astray from the morality of sexual deviation .. what we don’t understand is that our natural nature has been labeled as sinful because it was so easy to use it as a tactic .. it makes us fight with ourselves internally and with others externally.. the irrational nature of the fear of death and the consequences after death used against us by a group of people that made it up; by people 1000s of years ago that had access to education and reading that peasants didn’t have access to.. they actually commissioned writers to make up hell to scare the shit out of people so that they would behave and pay penance to the church..and follow the dogma or rules indoctrinated into them.. many people of all different religions couldn’t read or write..so even if scripture was made available they couldn’t of made sense of it themselves.

Some links http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Constantine_the_Great ( proves that Constantine created Christianity to unite his empire..basically to manipulate people into doing what he wanted and needed them to do.. when the bible was compiled of multiple books.. he chose to burn many that included a feminine voice.. because he wanted to control women..and he wanted to use their husbands to help him to control women.. controlling women meant that more than 60% of his empire would be locked down to his ideals.)

http://www.aloha.net/~mikesch/banned.htm -

“Canon 14. We prohibit also that the laity should be permitted to have the books of the Old or New Testament; unless anyone from motive of devotion should wish to have the Psalter or the Breviary for divine offices or the hours of the blessed Virgin; but we most strictly forbid their having any translation of these books.”

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“Apparent immediately is the third of the work devoted toPurgatory, a doctrine of the Roman Catholic Church having no foundation in the Bible.’”
Dante imagines various levels of hell and heaven. He describes the Inferno in great detail, vividly describing the torments and agonies of hell; these descriptions, however, do not come from the Bible. Some come from Islamic tradition.”"

My point is this.. we are still living in the brutality of the Iron Ages.. or the Middle Ages, because we are allowing state and country to be run by the doctrine of these ages.. we are allowing sexual repression into our school systems.. into to the work place.. we are still condemning and damning each other to hell because we believe in it’s creation..due to the fear of what happens after death.. we still are giving room for Manifest Destiny.. and that is why racism and slavery are still being practiced today..just look at the Middle East.. people are being slaughtered because one country believes their God said they should and that they have a right to do so in the name of God.. today we have riots in Baltimore.. the women’s dollar is still at 77cents compared to the male wages.. we have the right to gay marriage on trial.. all in the name of religion..

So when are we going to evolve? It’s time we either get rid of religion or we take the human rights infringements out of religion to bring about true equality and justice..and it’s time we see that sex isn’t sinful.. it is a just our natural nature..it’s time to stop going against science and nature ..it’s time to embrace our wholeness..until then nothing will change.. but nature just might do what nature does..because what doesn’t evolve isn’t good for nature.. it will ..we will simply just die back.

It’s time to be spiritual and logical.

The Female Orgasm

 

What makes a woman orgasmic and what causes her from orgasming or achieving quality orgasms?

Women fake orgasms because they are probably to tired/ill/depleted and too sexually repressed to have them.

The subconscious and conscious thoughts of a woman who hasn’t had an orgasm, has trouble reaching orgasm or has poor quality orgasms are self defeating thoughts. Often they feel unattractive for varying reasons, I am going to touch on.. and they sexually repress themselves by ingrained social and religious stigmas; thoughts like ” Only slutty women touch their vaginas. Only women without morals actually like sex and want it.” or thoughts like ” I am fat and ugly, I cannot even place myself in my own sexual fantasies.” .. {she has low self esteem.}

The woman that cannot reach orgasm is usually a martyr .. she puts everyone ahead of herself. She sees her self worth by how others view her to be a good woman, to be a ultra submissive, servant to family and friends.. she is too nice, too kind, too giving and allows others to drain her over her energy.. she doesn’t ever say no. She doesn’t set healthy boundaries. She is exhausted and drained of her vital life force, and so she hasn’t anything left to put into her orgasm.

The woman who cannot reach orgasm doesn’t feel safe in her life. Her basic needs for love, acceptance, finances and even her physical safety may be at risk constantly.. she hasn’t any resources to call on for help; or feels so lowly about her own worth that she stays in a horrible relationship that drains her of her feminine essence.. once again it comes down to self worth.

The woman who is orgasmic.. holds herself in high esteem .. she will not tolerate abusive behaviors by anyone in her life. She takes care of her body. She is very aware of whom she gives her time or energy to. A woman who is orgasmic takes time for the pleasures in her own life; how ever small they maybe she takes time for her alone time.. to recharge. A woman who is orgasmic will stay single and on her own until she meets the right man that will treat her with the love and respect she treats herself with.. Yes there are women who will sleep around, and sleep with unsuitable men ..that treat them without respect; that do have orgasms but they are not quality orgasms.. they are shallow and only serve as an addiction to sex, that is used to cover up the lack of self love within them. The woman who has deep, sensual quality orgasms has a deep sense of herself and her worth. She doesn’t take on societal shaming or religious shaming of her sexuality. She has the wisdom of knowing her sexual fantasies are her own mysteries into the depths of her passions..she embraces even her darkest needs. She knows that her mind can entertain many deep dark, sensual, gritty fantasies without having to act them out in reality..she has no shame. She sees her imperfections .. as uniqueness.

 

The woman who experiences intense orgasms is more than in touch with her body..she is in touch with her soul through creativity.. she plants gardens, writes poetry, makes babies, decorates, sings, collects beautiful things.. she exercises her choices..she has a voice and she uses it with out apologies..she takes up room..she takes up space..she has a presence. She is decadence in form.. she seeks out pleasure to be pleasure..she fills her cup to over flowing… the woman who is void of this.. who is empty from over giving..of giving herself away.. hasn’t anything to give to herself.. she is a barren landscape that must be healed and re-nourished by the pursuit of her own pleasures.

As you can see the female orgasm starts long before she ever touches her own body.. she needs to give herself permission to be open to receiving pleasure even from her own hand..she must submit to pleasure for pleasure..she must give herself the allowance of decadence.. she must allow her fantasies..she must allow her imperfections and see them as unique beauty to be aroused of herself, before she can ever be aroused by a lover.. she must spend time alone with herself away from the busy world that demands all of her energy, to find and replenish her own self worth.. then she is ready to begin exploring her own body.

The most important epiphany any woman will ever have is that she is of herself.. she is not defined as a mother, daughter, sister, wife, friend.. she is not defined by anything or anyone outside of herself..she isn’t defined by society or religion..she is defined by her own will and spirit.

When she has defined herself.. when she touches her breast, her clitoris.. when she finds her G-spot.. when her mind and heart are cleared of all outside forces she will be able to be present with her orgasm.. she will have a cosmic connection to the divinity of her femininity ..

I do believe that when women become awakened to this desire ..the desire of self exploration the entire universe will shift with the awakening of the divine feminine within each and every woman that chooses her Inner Goddess over The Martyr.

If a woman is orgasmic but cannot have an orgasm with you ( if you’r a man reading this post ) it is probably because she doesn’t feel safe with you, or you are not present with her in her orgasm.. meaning you are rushing her through it.. you are not into giving her or helping her achieve her orgasm.. in essence you are being selfish and lazy. For a woman to totally open up to you, you must be into her pleasure as well as your own pleasure.. if you are just wanting her to orgasm to appease your ego ..she may feel this as a pressure to perform for you and then again you are being selfish. So if she doesn’t have problems reaching quality orgasms on her own.. you will have to find away to be with her and totally enraptured by her.. ravishing her for her desires to experience her orgasms with her.

To read more about The Goddess in you.. please go to Balboa Press to purchase my book ( The Goddess, an Expression of the Divine Feminine ) by Gracie Ackerman

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