Posts Tagged ‘sexual abusers’

Open Letter to the Canadian RCMP

Update – soon after sending this email and posting this to my blog I was called by the police inspector and given a verbal apology.
This is a modified email that I sent out the Vernon Police Inspector
I don’t expect any action from the police due to the fact that it is clearly a boy’s club. Just going by my own personal experiences thought my life and by seeing how other women around me, including my own mother have been treated by the RCMP I am expecting no real justice.
Reading the popular media, in the last year a Canadian judge told a rape victim in court that she should of just kept her legs together and just recently a female officer quit her job of 14 years of trying to educate the male force towards sexual harassment and discrimination. The female officer quit her job due to sexual harassment and discrimination. Clearly this is a boy’s club and obviously my complaints and my story will be covered up.
Inspector ********* left me a phone message saying that Cost. ******** who delivered the letter to me for the gym owner Peter ******** was inappropriate but he is a young officer so he didn’t really know any better. This is clearly an excuse. As an officer of the law it is his duty to be impartial and to serve the law not the boy’s club at Peter’s gym. It is the duty of the police force to protect me as a woman against sexual discrimination and harassment, not to further harass me for the retired police officer Len; who not only asked me how much for sexual favors but it was his and the owner’s intention to scare me out of the unisex area and out of the gym, so that they could continue to further discriminate against other female members without being held accountable. The owner’s language and those of his friends that participate, is the language of hate speech. Peter clearly stated in the video that he wanted the guys down stairs to be able to talk about what ever they wanted, that includes bashing other religions, races, cultures, gays and women. Clearly this is against human rights and this man shouldn’t be able to legally run a business that is based on discrimination and harassment of those who don’t meet his personal specifications. Peter should not have a business licence and should not be serving the public as we all know hate speech and discrimination cause hate crimes like what just happened in Quebec.
If I as a woman, cannot give a statement to the RCMP about sexual harassment with out the police coming back onto me, in my home, invading my personal life and privacy; how than can any woman report even more serious crimes like rape?
The police have terrorized me. I don’t feel safe in my own home. The date rape that I buried subconsciously has now risen to the surface of my awareness; and I am experiencing emotionally all the effects of deep trauma. I am so glad that I did not report my date rape to the police here in Armstrong BC, six years ago as I am sure I would of been blamed for being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I had physical injuries due to the rape but I am sure it would of been written off by the police as just rough sex. It seems to me that the police protect men and their reputations over women and their rights to be treated with respect and dignity.
After Constable ******** left me with the letter and his horrible condescending attitude of threatening me with arrest should I trespass back into the gym, I was left feeling hopeless and suicidal. I felt and I was punished by the police for daring to make a statement of sexual harassment and sexual discrimination against a retired police officer and a male gym owner. Obviously these men are of more importance to the police and to the law than I am as a woman. Obviously it is criminally offensive for a woman to dare to stand up to sexual harassment and obviously female police officers find the same fate within the system.
We are living in very sad and sorrowful times are we not?
Inspector ********* has left a message with me as has Les ****** of the Enderby police department. I have returned their messages but I have not been called back.
It would be just and right if the police gave me a public apology towards their own actions of not following proper procedure instead of making excuses and attempting to bury it under red tape and paper work. I think that the intent is that I will give up hope and drop it, and that I will just get on with my life. It seems to me the intention is to rip away my self worth and to induce hopelessness so that the matter doesn’t have to be properly addressed by the RCMP.
Going by what is happening Canada wide and by the tone of how the world treats women and their rights.. I am sure all women will be continued to be treated as property and second class citizens. It doesn’t seem to matter if you live by the letter of the law, pay your taxes and respect authority as clearly male based authority doesn’t respect women in general.
I have put ********* into the names to protect privacy and so that the law doesn’t once again come back onto me. I am publishing this to protect myself should the police further discriminate against me as retaliation or punishment, and to also show the truth should the gym owner have members make up false stories to cover himself.

When Terrorist Win

 

I had a really creep night last night. I had a male religious fanatic join my Facebook and make comments about women’s sexuality. Basically he believed in the bible at a very fundamental level. He believed that women’s sexuality and the women’s movement was the Anti-Christ..and therefore I was the Anti-Christ. He believed that sex outside of marriage was the cause of all the loose morality in society today..and that women were responsible for that because, they were not following the world of God by seeing or believing that they are subservient to men, because God created them to serve men. Because he was from my local area; my red warning flags flew high. Because his beliefs were and are so intense.. and because they dehumanized me and other women who stood for equality.. I believed he was capable of harming me so I called the local police. I was glad to have gotten a female officer; as it stood to reason she would be more understanding.

But I found some of her responses to be disturbing as well. She thought that because I was writing about women’s sexuality, and because my profile pic and other pics were sexy..that I was attracting the wrong attention. She also thought I was putting my children in danger by having their pictures up on my Facebook. I do understand why she came to these conclusions. But I don’t think a woman is responsible for attracting an abusive man by being too sexy or sexual.. I think an abuser is attracted to what an abuser is attracted to.. this man was attempting to terrorize me by placing the blame of his actions on me by a form of social and religious entitlement. The female officer was unaware of how women are brainwashed..and men are brainwashed into rape culture thinking. I informed her as politely and as factually as I could that I am not responsible for his actions.. that being sexy or sensual doesn’t make me a bad mother..nor is it my fault that any man or person should think they have a right to abuse me or my children for practicing my rights and living within my rights. You see women are harassed by weirdos like this simply for walking down the street.. I have been my entire life..and I know many other women that have as well.. as a woman you can stay home..stay locked in and still be raped, or molested. You can be raped by your father, brother, grandfather, priest, family friends.. etc. etc. So playing small or over protecting will not keep a woman or child safe from sexual abusers.. in fact the abusers win by taking away your freedom by scaring the shit out of you.. That is the way it is for all terrorist .. for all fundamentalist that believe you have to behave within their rules of conduct to be kept safe from their bigotry or hatred.. that hatred is really a deep seeded hatred for themselves and it is stemmed by their own fears.. the fear of death and what is or isn’t past death’s doors.. so they use control of others to attempt to control what they don’t have any control over..

The point is playing small to any form of bullying or abusive actions or to the people committing them.. only serves to promote the abuse and to create more abusers..as the pay off is the control.

The only way to step out of the mental and emotional prisons is to live freely in spite of them..

One thing is for certain.. there are some seriously messed up, crazy people in the world.. some of them very mentally ill who do have influence and power.. who can and will oppose you; but life is risky, not a single one of us is getting out of this alive; we have to be wise to these creeps ( that’s why I called the police to scare the shit out of him ) but we also have to balance being defensive but not overly protective.. Terrorist win by mind control..they manipulate emotions by causing us to fear for our lives..but most of it is smoke and mirrors; mixed with some reality.. but if I was to hide away I wouldn’t be living anyway..

That’s why there are walks for women like ” Take back the night” ¬†we have a right to take back our freedom from terrorist.

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