I had a really creep night last night. I had a male religious fanatic join my Facebook and make comments about women’s sexuality. Basically he believed in the bible at a very fundamental level. He believed that women’s sexuality and the women’s movement was the Anti-Christ..and therefore I was the Anti-Christ. He believed that sex outside of marriage was the cause of all the loose morality in society today..and that women were responsible for that because, they were not following the world of God by seeing or believing that they are subservient to men, because God created them to serve men. Because he was from my local area; my red warning flags flew high. Because his beliefs were and are so intense.. and because they dehumanized me and other women who stood for equality.. I believed he was capable of harming me so I called the local police. I was glad to have gotten a female officer; as it stood to reason she would be more understanding.
But I found some of her responses to be disturbing as well. She thought that because I was writing about women’s sexuality, and because my profile pic and other pics were sexy..that I was attracting the wrong attention. She also thought I was putting my children in danger by having their pictures up on my Facebook. I do understand why she came to these conclusions. But I don’t think a woman is responsible for attracting an abusive man by being too sexy or sexual.. I think an abuser is attracted to what an abuser is attracted to.. this man was attempting to terrorize me by placing the blame of his actions on me by a form of social and religious entitlement. The female officer was unaware of how women are brainwashed..and men are brainwashed into rape culture thinking. I informed her as politely and as factually as I could that I am not responsible for his actions.. that being sexy or sensual doesn’t make me a bad mother..nor is it my fault that any man or person should think they have a right to abuse me or my children for practicing my rights and living within my rights. You see women are harassed by weirdos like this simply for walking down the street.. I have been my entire life..and I know many other women that have as well.. as a woman you can stay home..stay locked in and still be raped, or molested. You can be raped by your father, brother, grandfather, priest, family friends.. etc. etc. So playing small or over protecting will not keep a woman or child safe from sexual abusers.. in fact the abusers win by taking away your freedom by scaring the shit out of you.. That is the way it is for all terrorist .. for all fundamentalist that believe you have to behave within their rules of conduct to be kept safe from their bigotry or hatred.. that hatred is really a deep seeded hatred for themselves and it is stemmed by their own fears.. the fear of death and what is or isn’t past death’s doors.. so they use control of others to attempt to control what they don’t have any control over..
The point is playing small to any form of bullying or abusive actions or to the people committing them.. only serves to promote the abuse and to create more abusers..as the pay off is the control.
The only way to step out of the mental and emotional prisons is to live freely in spite of them..
One thing is for certain.. there are some seriously messed up, crazy people in the world.. some of them very mentally ill who do have influence and power.. who can and will oppose you; but life is risky, not a single one of us is getting out of this alive; we have to be wise to these creeps ( that’s why I called the police to scare the shit out of him ) but we also have to balance being defensive but not overly protective.. Terrorist win by mind control..they manipulate emotions by causing us to fear for our lives..but most of it is smoke and mirrors; mixed with some reality.. but if I was to hide away I wouldn’t be living anyway..
That’s why there are walks for women like ” Take back the night” we have a right to take back our freedom from terrorist.