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#METOO how Celeste Cote helped W.Brett Wilson oppress me

Celeste Cote’s blog post about Brett allowing me to be sexually harassed in his gym

more of her blog. Click to enlarge

 

I honestly didn’t want to adress this; it was too painful for me to confront this woman; but my female and male followers just kept telling me to be brave; ” Just be brave one last time Gracie.” ” Gracie she obviously wrote this to excuse Brett of his behaviors and to try to make you look crazy.” one person wrote to me ” Why would another woman do this to another woman. On her profiles she claims to be about social justice? Do you think she works for CBC, cause they wanted to relaunch Jian Ghomeshi and they made all the women he preyed on look crazy too?” ” Why wouldn’t Brett Wilson just help you with his manager? Why did he hate you and your work so much? Does Brett Wilson hate women or did he just have it out for you? I just don’t understand why he wouldn’t want to help you with the good work you do?”

I can’t answer these questions. I am sorry I just don’t know? I don’t know why he couldn’t of just stepped in and told his gym manager to stop harassing me for her friend Joel Young whom I wrote about sexually harasing me. She was mad at me for standing up for myself and refused to believe me even though she wasn’t there  at our meeting or during the sexual harassment. I can only guess that she did it to climb the social lader herself at my expense. I learned that writing about women’s sexuality and publishing nude photos of myself as artistic expression with my writing on the subject of women’s sexual empowerment, made me a target for bullying and abuse for daring to break out of social norms. I don’t know why Brett Wilson saw me as a threat to his reputation. I don’t know what I triggered in him to make him lash out at me and to use other women in professional positions to attempt to discredit me and to destroy me publically with false aligations. I don’t know how I could possibly destroy his reputation even if I did have topless photography in his gym. All though I never asked to have topless photography in his gym only to have the same rights and privileges as other long term paying memebers.

Today, after much prompting from my followeres I did message Celeste on facebook to find that 2 years ago she had messaged me but it had not come up on my notifications. So she had written a libellious post on me, without contacting me for permission and then sent me the link to see what I had to say about it. Her bio says she is a professional and that she seeks real journalism but how is that acting in anyway professional. She was threatening and bullying. I will include my text messages to her. She denied wanting to hurt me but her actions speak otherwise. She is obviously not wanting me to take legal action against her so she is attempting to excuse her behavior just like she tired to excuse Brett’s public sexism in the post by trying to paint me as crazy and fucked up.

What is truly fucked up is that in this day and age; I as a woman am not free towards freedom of expression without being bullied, and treated without discrimination. It is absolutly fucking disgusting that we have people in the public eye posting about social justice while being total bigots for the wealthy and powerful. FUCK YOU!!!

But I will not stop fighting for women and for myself. I will not let these loosers power over me or excuse themselves of their ignorance and bigotry.

I am a real artist and a real writer that writes and expresses for the real honest to god freedom and justice for all.

Those fuckers though!

This Canadian Woman’s.. opinion of Hockey

When I was a young girl; I was a tomboy, I loved playing street hockey with the boys. Left defense was my position of choice..but if right wasn’t doing it like they should; I would make up for the other player. I was very competitive, I could take hits and give them.. I earned the nick name ” Slasher ” it still makes me laugh. Now that I am all grown up; I am a very athletic and fit woman; even being in my 40s, having had three children; I could still slash and check now. I love training and sports. But I hate the macho bullshit that goes with sports. All the money that gets funneled into a game; a game that is primarily owned and made into a monopoly by rich greedy men. I know from experience that it promotes a sense of entitlement and sexism to men, that trickles into homes and marriages.. this is the experience I had with my now ex husband.

I found that hockey could be used as an excuse by my husband as the reason not to have to be present with his family; my ex also used work and golf for the exact same reasons. Using work as an excuse not to parent or spend time with me, was a way to take the high road for as master manipulation; after all, how do you fault a man for wanting to supply for his family? Hockey, and or other organized sports were his reward for all of his hard work outside of the home; you see I was being taught in a very sexist way, that he was entitled to his entitlement; that my work in the home or outside of the home wasn’t as important as his. I was being told by my husband and by society that if I was a good woman; I would be submissive, I should, we all should , just handle the kids, the home and our own feelings of loneliness.. to martyr our own happiness.. for the sake of his.

I wonder how many other women fake liking hockey to make their men happy? I wonder how many women fake being cool with it when they are seething inside because he puts a game ahead of his wife and kids..? I bet it’s like faking an orgasm; because she cannot reach those peaks of pleasure; because he is there only physically but not emotionally. How many women are listening to the hockey game playing in the background having their man right next to them..but feeling a total disconnect; lack of companionship.. being not alone but feeling totally alone?

I cannot count the number of dinners I made for him that he didn’t even taste; how many times our then young children did something cute, monumental or amazing.. when he was right there in the house, that he didn’t even see. How many women have cooked the dinner; put the kids to bed, washed the dishes.. and fell asleep while he tuned out watching hockey? How many women self pleasured.. because he was downstairs .. in an entire different dimension ( hockey land ) while he should of been making love to her?

How many hockey pools could she gamble on better then him; just by knowing the names of the top players because the hockey announcers voices playing in the back ground drilled the into her subconscious so completely, that she can recite them in her sleep?

I wonder how many women I am writing this for? How many women want to yell this into their man’s faces? How many women stuff this down every hockey season..or for every season his next favorite sport plays? How man women feel shut out; that are shut out for a stupid fucking game; a game that over pays players, and that promotes sexual inequality by the over pay and over promotion of male sports over female sports? How many fathers are teaching their sons to treat their wives like emotional baggage  when the game comes on? How man fathers are teaching their daughters that a sport means more to them, then family ..then love? But at the same time ..it’s up to us as women to speak up; to not stuff it down, to tell him our true feelings.

But to cover all bases ( pun intended ) some women really do love the game as much as their husbands.. if so this post isn’t for you.. move on, carry on.

Now fast-forward to my life today; as a divorced, single mom.. the play-offs are playing at his place but not at mine. My weekend with the kids; we watched a movie, made old fashioned popcorn, on the stove, in a pot..and spent family time together.. there isn’t any hockey here..and I am so grateful now that the marriage is over.. I will never be put behind a game; work, or any other interest when I meet  another. I will speak up right away..and if my needs are not met for equality.. I will walk away..

Tonight my ex is watching hockey with the woman he had an affair with.. and that’s just karma.. because now he is ignoring her.

 

It’s a man’s world

 

Oh will you look at that.. he has the world in his hat..modeling his Hugo Boss.. what man.. he can do whatever wants because he has a dick in his pants..

Look at that virility in a beard set up and out for all to see .. to resemble what lives between his knees.. it’s just so huge, big and pompous .. such a cocky .. cock..

You gotta love them.. it’s all about them.. their Hockey Night in Canada.. dudes just strutting their stuff.. a metaphor what lies between their thighs..

It’s a man’s world..

Just forget about equal pay and equal wage.. not when he has the stage and he can parade his dick in so many ways..but he will say he is about women’s rights..but in truth you can see by the way he lives his life..

It’s a man’s world..

He has got Play Boy on his mind.. he’s got he world at is feet and a babe by his side.. and he will not settle down because there so much to fuck.. and he can do what he wants to do because..

It’s man’s world..

Yes girls.. he will throw you a bone ( get it ) throw it from his table on high.. were he rules supreme for all to see how sexual and masculinity is worshiped and glorified; but women must hide their sexuality because..

It’s a man’s world..

Oh yes he is about helping females out.. when it comes to words and small gestures but really it amounts to just helping himself out .. to look like he cares about someone else but himself..

It’s a man’s world..

Lets just go have a beer..watch some strippers but pretend that we don’t support this sexist society ..but let’s watch male sports.. and support only what brings in money and it’s not the honey’s..

It’s a man’s world..

They pretend to give way.. they pretend to sway.. to listen to the girls and what they say..but only after they have had to fight their own way.. then they have to play..

It’s a man’s world..

You can see their full of shit.. and they just bullshit.. because when the chips are down.. and they are gambling.. there are no women at the table.. unless they are bringing them a beer..

It’s a man’s world..

Girls were  just thrown the odd bone.. and we lap it up ( get it ) and we suck up.. because it’s all that we are given.. crumbs and leftovers fallen from the bounty of man’s world.

It’s man’s world..

Don’t be fooled girls.. don’t be fooled as words are easy to say..and charities are games to play.. and all the world is a stage in.. A man’s world.

Being a sexy mom

 

So I have this hater.. her name is Marlie LaMusick@OverAndAround on twitter.. she comments on my Youtube videos.. currently she is hitting all the unlikes that she can. But her thing is this.. because I am a mother expressing my sexuality.. Through the goddess movement.. my book, this website and blog, photography in the book and online..and through my erotic dancing and talks on Youtube..she thinks I am an unfit mother ..she commented on twitter and under my vids that my kids should be taken away from me by social services.. Yes she is a bitch. Yes a mean spirited, jealous prejudiced..slut shaming bitch. An old bitty!

But she is just one of many conservative fundamentalistic jerks that thinks this way.. steeped in religious dogma that teaches us that a woman’s virtue or the worlds virtue for that matter lives between our legs ladies..so that means you don’t own your own vagina ..society does by slut shamming you into submission..

Question for the old bitch… ” Where do you think babies come from?” That’s right vaginas.. another Question to the old lady that is ancient in her thinking.. quite barbaric actually.. ” Do you think my kids don’t know their mother has a vagina?” Another Question for the old bat ” Do you think that my daughters don’t know they have vaginas and that they came out of my vagina?”

She is so crazy..this thinking is so insane..it is so so so so so insane!

To think that once a woman becomes a mother she should button up and go all Mother Teresa? Seriously? That is everything that is wrong with her I am sure of it..has to be.

For me to nun-up you would have to put me in a coffin first..cause that will be the day I die.. I plan on being so sexy.. I leave behind a sexy corpse.. that’s right bite me nasty bitch.

You want your grand daughters to grow up in a world were they are sexually repressed and then blamed for their own rapes..for dressing just a little too sexy ( dressing too sexy or being too sexy is completely subjective to the observer btw dumbass) I mean a woman can look at a man the wrong way or say something in a subjectively sexy tone and be raped for asking for it.. think about it! WTF is wrong with you?

Stupid Stupid Stupid old bitty.. OMG.. it’s a good thing you dinos are on the way out.. extinction is much need here.. you got to go.. if you cannot evolve to better society and the world for the next up coming generations..just die please..do them a favor.. really! You want young men.. your grand sons to not be able to have real intimacy with a woman because they feel entitled to abusing her sexually because of the double standards imposed onto them and taught to them by social fucking norms that are anything but normal.. ya cause society teaches young men through media ( porn ) and just through the mainstream media feed of the objectification of women and GIRLS sexuality that women are OBJECTS..to be used and discarded at his will.. so because of that.. no real love or intimacy.. I wonder if she is grasping this.. prob not.. soooo time to meet The Grim Reaper.. we are done with your kind..so the sooner the better.. like you said yourself you nasty bitch ” No Mercy for her” ya karma takes a bite right? That’s what she thinks as a woman about another woman who is the single mother of three children..that because I express my sexuality ( I OWN IT BABY ) I deserve to hated/punished/shunned/shamed/ harassed/bashed/ and basically treated with all cruelty.. or quite frankly as less than a human being..that’s right I should be..or other women like me..should be dehumanized.. because we are trash.

That is everything that is wrong with the norms ( insanity of society ) it’s fucking crazy..and ya know what..this shit keeps up there will never be women’s equality.. not only with The Feminine Heart in society will be denied and killed off..but so will masculinity..because men cannot be real men if they are not protecting women..if they are raping/murdering/demoralizing/ abusing women in anyway..they are doing exactly the opposite of what real men do.. real men.. love, respect and protect women.. not just the women in their circle but all women.. that’s why we have the whole LUMBER SEXUAL thing going on because men wish for the hero in them to rise up..they miss their masculine romance.. they wish to be the man who has that heart connection with a woman or women.. with shaming the female sex.. the male sex is has also lost it’s balance..and we miss out on love and courtship..by suppressing the beauty of feminine sexuality..

Our children need us to express the fullness of who we are so that they can also have that to role model after..

I am sure my stalker.. hater didn’t understand I word I just wrote..but I know I  am helping who I am meant to help.. like other moms..and men who want to reconnect with women.. who seek real intimacy through equal partnership.

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