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Anti Abortion Protests in Kelowna BC Canada

This happened on Wednesday morning May 20th 2015.. it’s taken me a few days to calm down so that I can write this post as objectively as possible.

I was driving my kids to school; driving past Mission Park in Kelowna..down Springfield Rd.. we saw bright colors along the hillside. At first my kids and I thought they had turned the hillside into a huge garden bed of flowers; but upon approaching we saw the anti abortion signs and that the flowers were bright blue and pink landscape flags. I must say I was instantly livid!..and I can pinpoint exactly why now. Because pro choice gives women and men the choice to continue a pregnancy or not.. it gives choice and non judgement. Pro choice doesn’t attempt the owner ship of women’s bodies or both men and women’s lives. Pro Life attempts to take away the rights and freedoms of others by painting all abortions with the same brush of brightly colored shame. To me all of those flags were a guilt trip! All of those flags dipped in the manipulative poison of shame. Each of those flags represents the ownership of the womb; they tag women as incubators for the seed of the patriarchy.

What really pisses me off the most is that these anti abortionist; pro lifers .. were given a permit from the city to use a public park..along a very busy road .. using freedom of speech and freedom to protest to attempt to take freedom away from women and men who, for varied reason have chosen not to take a pregnancy to full term.. how is it that shaming people who practice their rights to choice isn’t considered hate speech? I think it is because the Government is steep in religious dogma..that it has been absorbed into the constitution if the constitution is even at all relevant at times like these.. and so my rage; my anger .. was the response of protecting freedom.. and such is the effect of passion.and my passion for women’s rights, equality and freedom.. yes this makes me an emotional girl.

I knew upon passing this display of self righteous hypocrisy that I would be taking a stand .. as I dropped my children off at school I was chomping at the bit to confront those who attempted through guilt and shame to take way the rights and freedoms of others.. and so I did.

Dressed for the gym.. I walked up the slope of the park to address a man sitting smugly in a lawn chair.. he was about 65. I asked him what the protest was about; he told me that each of the flags represented a boy or girl that was aborted. I asked him ” Were are the rainbow flags for all of the gay children then? You know they are born gay right?” He then asked me if I believed in hell.. my response was ” hell is here right now and you are creating it.” He told me they had a right to protest..and then I told him I have a right to protest your protest by picking up the garbage that you have all over this public park. I then began pulling out flags. I was yelled at of course. I was asked ” Don’t you believe in God?” I was told ” You are a baby killer !!” ( I myself haven’t had to have an abortion..but I just might need to one day ..if I am raped..or my daughters and your daughters might need to one day too) Then soon I found myself surrounded. I was preached at; my hair was pulled. They tried to untie my runners. They tried to pull the flags from my arms..but I kept pulling them up.. the posts were steel..they were getting heavy.. they said ” You have quite a few now..they must be getting heavy.. why don’t you just put them down..give them to us..they are our property.. you are taking our property ..we are calling the police now!!” I told them ” It is a good thing I lift heavy weights then.. I was just on my way to the gym..I go 5 days a week. I am not taking your property off this property so I am not stealing anything. When I am done cleaning up your guilt trip I will give them back to you. Call the police.. my name is Gracie Ackerman.” I was glad they were calling the cops. I wanted to get my point across, strong and clearly. The men were so arrogant and manipulative. They told me they were just trying to stop all the baby girl abortions in China.. they told me that was male control.. not what they were doing in the name of God.. then they told me this was non religious.. then in the next sentence they were condemning me and judging me a evil and a sinner. One woman who had an abortion.. who obviously regretted it; was sure I had, had one too.. she said ” She is obviously wounded from her abortion” I said ” Obviously you are..but you have no right to think that other women will share your feelings should they chose to abort.”

One man in his 50s droned on and on.. with his own personal dogma..saying the same thing over and over again..it was so ultra creepy.. He stood toe to toe with me as I bent over and kept picking up the flags.. saying ” That was another baby you just killed.. that flag was a boy..now you just killed a girl..” then he went on and on and on about the baby girls in China .. his eyes would glaze over as if he took comfort and got a high from his own internal dogma spewing out of his mouth..finally I just couldn’t take him anymore and I said ” Do I look like your subservient good Christian wife? Do I look like that stunned bitch over there that is in a constant guilt trip in her own head over her choice to abort? Do I look like I empower the patriarchy by giving you my submission and my mind? Fucking shut the fuck up! You fucking arrogant ignorant boy man! Go tell you wife this shit.. You represent women’s imprisonment! You fucking make me sick! You are the type of man in the church that would rape a young girl.. then blame her for dressing the wrong way inciting her own rape.. look at how these women dress here.. like sickening gray zombies.. no make up .. no skin showing.. they are servants to men.. do I look like the fucking type that is going to believe your manipulations and dogma bullshit.. shut the fuck up!” I was thinking ” Were the fuck are the cops! I want to make my stand..get the point across for all women who are to afraid to do this..because I am not afraid..but hurry up cops!”

So next the sang Amazing Grace..because they thought it funny and ironic that my name is Grace.. So I sang it will them.. my voice shaking in anger.. and I corrected them when they got the lyrics wrong..idiots! And that is right I am Amazing Grace.. because what I did was for the love of equality and freedom.. for everyone that is here on this planet with me and everyone who will walk after me..

Finally the cops showed up.. I motioned for him to walk up the slope.. He had to give me shit..that’s his job. I understood that. I had to drop the flags were I stood..because legally they were not my property. Yes they got a permit to protest from the parks board.. ( way to go Government and religion mixing ) .. that equals inequality..

But after the cop gave me shit.. I told him ” I am proud of myself and what I did. I write about women’s rights and equality…sexual repression through religion..I respect the fact that you are a cop.. your job is intense.. but I hope you can see that we both stand for the same thing and that is justice.. I didn’t just write about it..I just walked my talk.. I think I took a stand today for many people.” We then shook hands..and I got in my car.. and I went to the gym and worked it all out in sweat.. mission was accomplished.

I learned that they had a right to put their hands on me for pulling up there flags.. imaging that? Some thing is really wrong with that..

But imagine if this does set hard and fast into our Government.. and women become less than people because the potential life inside of them becomes more important than the proven viable life carrying the the potential.. if that happens humanity is damned to fall into ashes.

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