Posts Tagged ‘Reality check’

Stay Sweet

 

We all live in a world were everyone is pretending .. it’s just the way it is. It starts in high school. Everyone wants to fit in.. be popular.. liked and accepted. We are shown through media projections; by branded personalities how to be cool.. how to put on the social masks that everyone worships and adores. But by doing so we loose ourselves and our true identities and so we become bitter. We become bitter by fear.. fear of rejection.. we become bitter because we sell ourselves out.. for social acceptance, and we think social protection. But if one becomes popular and adored by many people for projecting a image that they want.. we are truly not accepted at all..because we are not really being ourselves. So you can have the love of many while not being loved at all..and worse… you not loving yourself.

The most difficult thing to do is to really be yourself and love yourself past other’s insecurities and social rejections… but it is the only way to stay sweet..it is to stay and be vulnerable; to be humble. Courage is putting your heart out there..while knowing far well, that you will probably be rejected. When you are truly authentic, open, raw and vulnerable you are a threat to those who wear the thickest social masks.. because you are their mirror. A truly authentic and raw person is clear and blinding truth to those who are in the greatest denial of the social mask that they wear; and so it is that the nerdiest, nicest, sweetest and strangest people are the most rejected by society. We make people uncomfortable..because conformity is comforting.. the sweetest and most loving people wear their hearts on the outside..so we are labeled as victims by those who would victimize the open hearted for the very fear of being open and vulnerable themselves.

In the worldly way.. being truly vulnerable is labeled as weak.. but who is really being weak? I think those who have lost themselves in groups of people and organizations have lost.. those who are vulnerable and have the courage to constantly lay their hearts on the line.. well this is true strength..to put your heart out, even though it is wounded..bloody and raw from being constantly rejected.. attacked for being open.. seen as a target.. this takes in credible strength.. people like me .. we are true spiritual warriors.. because we are giving the world and example of the compassionate heart.. even thought it is constantly being torn and ripped apart by those who fear true depth and feeling.. those who have been hurt and cut.. sometimes they are the one’s that will cut us the deepest. But being truly vulnerable, real, raw, authentic and open regardless of constant emotional, mental and spiritual attacks, takes the greatest strength.

We live in a very cold and plastic society.. not just in my city.. even though outsiders confirm that their is a higher than normal concentration of assholes in Kelowna BC.. but the only way to open other’s cold and fearful hearts is to stay open and brave.. to stay vulnerable .. raw.. broken .. and compassionate.. it is to do our very best to forgive them..because in their, inner terror, they are lost..lost to themselves.. washed away .. in the conformity of fitting in..rather than standing brave.. being nerdy.. goofy.. making mistakes..failing..being perfectly/imperfect ..

Stay sweet.. stay open.. an love no matter what.. because love favors the brave.

Don’t let fear and bitterness make you bitter.

Best Selling Author

I told myself I wasn’t going to write on my blog this morning..told myself I was going to relax on my leather couch and enjoy my morning coffee..savor my strong coffee while my kids slept..before I had to get them up for school.. I always get up a few hours before them.. I have researched that this is a trait of successful people ;)

But I got to thinking..about how many people in my local professional community call themselves best selling authors.. of course it just sounds good on LinkedIn..and it is a resume; self professed slight of hand.. These are the ( successful ) people in the organizations that have basically banded me from joining them due to the ( sexual content of my book ) because obviously my book is better LOL… and they wouldn’t want me to actually reach media and become an actual best selling author.. past their dribble.. most of them are just stealing from other’s who have written books before them about success and the steps of success.. copying from men like Richard Brandson… or ( Stealing like Artists ) from books like the Secret.. Just love their terminology.. ” Stealing like Artists ” Jerks..

But to really put it into perspective.. ( I just love perspective ) to take away from the smoke and mirrors of their organizations..and groups.. where they all talk each other up ( lie to each other ).. Kelowna is a little tiny fishbowl compared to the entire world.. and if you have made it big in Kelowna.. well really your nothing new at all.. because to make it big in Kelowna you have to pretend to be someone else.. so when they use the terminology of being ” authentic ” it’s truly laughable.. they dress the same.. talk the same speal..because it’s an old sales man’s trick.. it’s like selling knives out of the back of your truck.. or selling a $100 vacuum for $800 bucks..

So what does a REAL best selling author look like.. well.. how about Stephen King or J.K. Rowling..because guess what  ? you all actually heard about them! ..they are on the world stage.. because even being a best selling self published author on Amazon.ca; really in reality, it means shit!.. SHOW ME THE MONEY!.. get a grip!

In my second to last post I wrote about what successful people think and do..the actions that they take.. a part of having reason.. is to face reality..if you don’t start from directly were you are at.. by the ground on which you stand.. you cannot change or effect that reality.. so if you are full of shit.. calling yourself what you are not.. you will always be full of shit.. good luck changing that.. you will be the small fish in a small fishbowl with other small fish…because you refuse to see the small fishbowl.. you will always be trapped.. your not going to risk taking a leap of faith and jumping from the small fishbowl into reality or the great big sea..because that’s just scary.. it’s way more comforting to believe your own bullshit and the bullshit of others around you saying ” Wow.. we are really big fish!”

So here is my reality.. I am not a best selling author at all.. I can’t swim with the other little fishies even.. they don’t like my bright colors.. I don’t fit in..and I don’t go along with the vacuum sales man’s speal .. I keep it real.. they don’t like that at all.. I see an elephant in the room.. I say ” Elephant’s in the room ” they say ” Don’t come to our networking groups.. we can’t make you not come..but we really don’t want you there ” poor little fishies..

But here is the thing.. I know I am in a deficit with my book.. I have rocked some people’s reality in the little fishbowl of Kelowna BC by offering up a world view of world problems.. the problem that I show is the solution.. but they love pre-packaged processed messages that they can steal like artists from..

Me as Venus. From my book ( The Goddess, an Expression of the Divine Feminine ) about women’s empowerment through the emancipation of their sexuality.. repression caused by religious dogma

The point is.. I am facing reality.

What did I do that was so different that it is offensive to them.. I wrote about book about women’s sexuality.. I wrote about my own sexuality as an example.. I used professional photography in the book..and am the model in the book as the Goddess Archetypes.. and I am topless just like the classic paintings of the Goddess..of Venus and such.. and because no famous person did it before me..because it is my own creation.. it makes me a slut LOL

here is the link to my failure.. my book.. the best thing I ever failed at.. the failure that I love.. I love my baby anyway.. even if other’s don’t ( yet )

http://bookstore.balboapress.com/Products/SKU-000576933/The-Goddess-an-Expression-of-the-Divine-Feminine.aspx

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