As long as women are judged by how they dress, who they are with and what they are doing as worthy of having or not having basic human rights they will not have the same rights and freedoms as an average male does in society. As long as women’s bodies are objectified as pornographic they will not be free to fully express or be who they truly are. Granted we all have to follow some social rules, but the double standards placed on women’s sexuality vs a man’s prevents women from having the same freedoms. Men are not blamed for enticing a rapist, men are not blamed for enticing sexual harasment or domestic abuse for supposedly flaunting their sexuality. The belief that men cannot control their sexual urges vs that women can control their sexual urges, is an excuse that allows men to abuse and control women throughout many levels of society and within the home.
The fact that young girls are taught in schools that they must dress in a appropriate way so as not to distract the boys from getting their education and as a way to defend themselves from unwanted sexual advances; preaches towards the social brainwashing used to enslave women to men. Women are also abused by other women who fear loosing male attention and approval by being slut shamed and bullied into dumbing down or covering up their natural sexuality and biology. Other women have proven over the centuries to be brutal and cruel towards their same sex due to competing for a man’s resources and protection.Women who are sexy or sensual, pretty and overtly feminine are seen as seducing men, and using their beauty as a tool for survival and manipulation vs just being who they are. Women have proven throughout history to be their own worst enemy or friend-ememies; some of this jealousy and hatred towards their own sexuality and other women’s sexuality is due to being brainwashed by religious dogma, that has caused internalized misogyny. For women to become free or sexually emancipated we must start within ourselves and with a sisterhood. As far as the promotion of feminism; women are keeping themselves back just as much as the patriarchy, by jealousy and internalized misogyny. If women want to rise towards true equal rights we have to become aware of our own internal misogyny and jealousy towards our own sisters.
If women had equal pay and equal opportunity and if they could be just as free in their bodies and sexuality as men; they wouldn’t have to compete from male attention or resources nor would they be pushing eachother down due to petty jealousies.
It isn’t just the partiarchy that is keeping women down it is women that are keeping women down. We have believed the lies of a media and religion that tells us to fight against each other vs standing together as a sisterhood.
In order for women to be truly free we need to be able to walk the night just as freely as men; we should be able to get dressed for work, without the worry of appearing too sexual just like men do. We are not free when we have to be constantly on edge wondering if we are in the wrong place, at the wrong time, drinking in public around the wrong people, wearing the wrong thing at work, or saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.. because society teaches and promotes that women are responsible for the abuses that men inflict onto them. Society teaches young boys that if a girl is dressed too sexy then he is entitled to harass her as it is her responsibility because she dressed like she was asking for it.
You can purchase my book ( The Goddess an Expression of the Divine Feminine ) ~ by Gracie Ackerman from Amazon.ca
my website wall www.sexassacred.com
We have watched the news unfolding on Facebook over Standing Rock and the Water Protesters taking a stand for all of humanity by trying to peacefully protect the drinking water on the Native American reservation. All of the major new’s media such as New York Times and the Globe and Mail are reporting that Obama has stopped big oil from putting the pipeline under the lake; and so we all celebrated the good news thinking it was over and that good won over greed.. yet just now on my Facebook I have posted a live feed video from Lakota’s People’s Law Project informing us past major media that the drilling is still going through. The media and the vets have been used to turn our attention away from DAPL, so that people would leave the site of the pipeline so that they can use subterfuge to complete the pipeline.
I don’t have to cite facts about leakage of oil and gas as they are all over the internet for you to fact out for yourself; and if you are reading this I am sure you have. I am sure I don’t have to tell you that we have reached the carbon tipping point and that our dependence on fossil fuels has tipped us into the toxic zone. I am sure I don’t have to tell you that the leaks and the spillage alone has smothered life in our world wide oceans killing 2/3 of the world’s ocean life. I am sure I don’t have to tell you that it isn’t just greenery and forests that create and sustain our oxygen supplies but it is also our oceans that give off life sustaining oxygen.. and oil and plastic’s created by fossil fuels are smothering our ocean’s of life sustaining oxygen. I am sure I don’t have to tell you this as even my 9 yo son understands that we cannot breath carbon or drink oil.. I am sure I don’t have to tell you that the Oil and Gas Industry has become so powerful that it can now pay off our government’s, and our law enforcement to work for them to do their bidding rather than to follow the laws that were created to protect and serve all the people.. because even my children understand this.
I know you know that the people who own and run the fossil fuel industry have more than enough money to phase the energy industry into a clean and green energy industry. I bet you know other countries like Greenland and Scotland are pretty much off the fossil fuel grid.. I bet you know that don’t you.. my kids know that.
I bet you have concluded on your own that if big oil wanted to the could switch their investments from oil into wind, sun and water or even thermal energy and they could advise other’s to do so by use of the media to create a clean industry that is both ethical, science based, practical and lucrative. I know you know that. I know that you know that if they wanted to they could create jobs by building factories that make solar cells and wind turbines ..etc.. etc..and they could create jobs installing and upkeeping a clean power grid. You are intelligent, so you are wise to the fact that greed is the Achilles Heel of humanity.. it is greed that retards the human species intellect. It is greed that is our kryptonite, greed is the cancer in the human soul that manifest as cancer in our bodies and it is the greed of a powerful and ruthless few, that will destroy us all, as it is going unchecked.
With the fire power and military or violence on the side of the greedy few, the entire human race faces extinction.
As fossil fuels leak into our drinking water we will be forced to buy drinking water from the greedy few who contaminated our drinking water for a short term gain…and then slowly we will all die from lack of oxygen and clean water..
The question is this ” How do the many regain their power back from the merciless few? How can these people be awakened from their greed and insanity before they destroy life on this planet?”
But maybe, just maybe the human race has reached it’s peak, scientifically speaking we just might be the next species source of power just like the fossil fuels that we consume.. let’s hope we burn cleaner.. I know I am being cryptic .. but you are intelligent you get the point..
If we cannot speak to the powers that hold this horrific power over us; if we cannot reach them and awaken them.. then just maybe we have had our time in the sun..?
To get to the point, the subject of this letter is women’s rights and equality. My book and life are based on this subject. I am the subject in question as are all women and/or Canadian women.
My qualifications are not based on PHDs or graduate degrees, my spelling, punctuation and grammar will not be perfect upon writing this post. I am a single mother so I cannot afford to have someone edit my blog. Like most single mothers I am very busy; as I write this my three children are settling in bed.. let’s hope they stay that way so I don’t loose my train of thought.
I want to share my personal experience as a woman living in Canada, under Canada’s flawed and sexist justice system.
I found out how unfair the justice system is going through my divorce. I learned through the judges and lawyers that my work wasn’t as important as my ex husbands work. I learned through them that he was actually the leader in the marriage and the one that was truly responsible for the family landscaping business. It didn’t matter that I had to work for a Government Grant to fund the start up of the business. A grant were I was taught how to write a business plan; were I had to pitch the plan to a board, and that I had to compete for the 3 grants up on the table against 30 other competitors. But I learned the 51% of the business that he had signed over to me to fully qualify for the grant didn’t really mean anything in court. I told them that the business didn’t actually need him for me to run it on my own. I told them that everything he did I could hire out to be done and I could still turn a profit. But that didn’t matter to the judges, the lawyers or the mediators. You see men’s work is more important than women’s work because they told me he was the business and so it should be his. And I wasn’t named on the mortgage, because of student loan dept at the time; it turned out that when the house sold he could take 1/3 more of what was not his. Of course I could of kept lawyers after him, but with no money and legal aid a complete joke ( basically you have to sell your car and almost be on the street to get legal aid ) my ex got away with an extra $22,000.00 and the business. I got $600 a month in alimony.
So Mr. Trudeau how will you change the system so that this doesn’t happen to other women? Are you going to change legal aid? Can you somehow teach lawyers and judges that women’s work is just as important as a man’s work? I want to know if you are going to implement equal pay? I don’t think it is fair that just because a woman can give birth she should be put behind in the pay grade.. do you?
Later on I found it impossible to get my ex to pay for his share of daycare. I tried to go back to school using a big lump sum of Family Allowance back pay. You see my ex wouldn’t sign the papers for the Government stating that we were legally separated; he still wanted to do income splitting with me to help himself ( he thinks he is more important than me and the children, and I wonder why that is? ) I had to get lawyers to get him to sign..so I was given a nice fat sum of $7,000.00 I went to college to get upgraded on my Executive Secretary. But my ex refused to pay his half of the childcare. I couldn’t afford keep hiring lawyers so with no help from legal aid my abusive ex caused me to have to drop out. I had to pay the childcare owning by him, myself. But wait it gets even better. A year or so later my ex took me to court because my car has an electrical problem and I can’t drive it long distances to drop the kids off to him; and so he comes to get them and drive them home. The judge wouldn’t even look at the papers my mechanic gave me as proof in court. The judge refused to make my ex pay for childcare as I didn’t provide proof that I was working or looking for work..( I didn’t know I had to provide proof I wasn’t applying for welfare ) but then they told me I had to find a full time job not a part time job and they wanted my preteen daughters to take the bus home from school across the city while I was going to be working at said full time job. The judge threatened me by saying ” If I wanted to I could make you pay for the last year of your ex husband’s gas.” The judge refused to listen to me when I told him that I was entrepreneuring a book, a concept and movement towards freeing women from sexual repression. He refused to look at the book; and in the minutes later mailed to me.. he refuse to acknowledge that I had even wrote a book.. he said ” Wants to write a book.”
Mr. Trudeau I was invisible in that court room. What are you going to do about this? Why is hearsay ( rumor or gossip ) sound like her-story..and history is recorded fact? Why are male voices heard and female voices passed up as non-important? It was like I was a ghost.. was I even really there to them? Why are judges able to financially abuse women with threats of back pay on what isn’t owed?
Mr. Trudeau when our house sold I wanted to use the money to move to Vancouver from Kelowna to launch my book. Kelowna and the Okanagan is a very Christian/Conservative community. Writing a book about women’s sexual repression to sexually liberate all women wasn’t going to be received will here. It wasn’t. My ex took me to court to order the court to stop me from moving. It would of only been a 4hr drive for him and he has family in the area. My future career and my right to the freedom to live were I choose were taken from me using the children as an excuse. I wasn’t moving them out of province or across the country. I was told by the judge that I had to remarry or be making more money than my ex husband to have that right.
Mr. Trudeau why do I have to be a man’s wife to have more rights and freedoms? Why do I have to have money to have more rights and freedoms? If I was a man I know the same wouldn’t of applied.
Mr. Trudeau I want to know why they system wants to make it so hard for me to be an independent and successful woman in my own right? I want to know why women have to work around this crap when men don’t. I want to know why many men get away with working under the table, thereby not paying the full amount of child support that they should? I want to know why the Government doesn’t audit these fathers? I want to know why the Government doesn’t make men parent? I want to know why these double standards still exist in a first world country? How can we set an example for the rest of the world if we don’t treat women with equality in a first world country?
Mr. Trudeau we are just at the tip of the iceberg here. My girlfriend was murdered by her husband in her house with her children in her house with her. He shot her. He hid her body in the house with the children in the house for over 12 hrs. This happened in Abbotsford BC. She is gone, her children are without a mother. He got out on bail 2 years after the fact. Don’t women’s lives matter in Canada? I want to know what you are going to do about that? Don’t you think this just sends a message to men that they can abuse and murder women with just a slap on the wrist? This says ” Women don’t matter”
I want to know why a Canadian judge can say to a rape victim in court ” You should of just kept your legs together” and then he is just up for review? How the hell did he become a judge in the first place? Why wasn’t he fired instantly for being a sexist pig? I want to know what you are going to do about this Mr. Trudeau?
I want to know why when I was treated with prejudice by Kelowna’s business community, by not being allowed to network within groups and organizations the Human Rights Tribunal didn’t have a clause to protect me from sexual discrimination; yet it has clauses protecting homosexual and transgender people from sexual discrimination. Why am I and not other women protected with the same rights? Why is it that if I was of East Indian decent and I wasn’t allowed into an organization the Human Rights Tribunal would of protected my rights; but as a woman writing about women’s sexuality I can be discriminated against? You have some explaining to do Mr. Trudeau.
As a woman I want to know why abortion is up for debate in Parliament? I want to know why the female body is owned and regimented by the Government and Churches? I want to know why the bible is allowed in the court room as it clearly creates a prejudice. People should just swear to tell the truth. Not everyone believes in the same God, and religion represses women. Religion states women as being under men..I think that is clearly what is wrong with the justice system. It is tainted by prejudice to create inequalities. What are you going do about this Mr. Trudeau?
Mr Trudeau I know that you have created a base of equality within your cabinet by hiring equal amounts women to men; but are the women being paid the same as the men? You have done some amazing things in the last couple of months for Canada. I think it is very compassionate of you to let in Syrian refugees. But as you can see there is so much more to do. And we both know you need to do it, we need to do it because it is the year 2016..and it’s about damn time..
Mr Trudeau I am sure your wife would agree with me that it is time for The Divine Feminine to rise. It is time that we do away with the double standards placed on women so that the entire world can become a better place for everyone. To find out more about me and my book google Gracie Ackerman.
I hope this letter was enlightening to you; I hope I have helped create positive change and evolution.
There needs to be a peaceful revolution..humanity needs to grow and evolve.
Justice .. it seems we live in a world void of truth and justice.. I felt compelled to share this chapter of my book during this moment in our world wide human struggles for what is just and fair.. right now we are experiencing the Syrian Crisis.. I believe the Angels are watching us.. will we rise up into our humanity..or will we fall back into our barbaric patterns.. for true civilization to emerge..for humanity to truly evolve.. we must change from ” An eye for an eye.” towards ” Only love can drive out hate” world..for ” What we do to other we do to ourselves.” What then will be our judgement.. what Karma have we created? We must see them as us for humanity to become truly civil; just, equal and fair.
~From the book ~The Goddess an Expression of The Divine Feminine~ Available on Amazon.ca click on images to enlarge them
The Lady of Justice and Civilization, she stands proud, dignified and true to the ideals of a civilized society. She will fight the good fight; she does not war for the sake of warring, she wars for the realization of peace. Athena does not believe in peace at all costs; she will not give up on freedom and liberty from oppressive forces. Athena’s civilization is the ideal of freedom for all not just a select few; as she understands within her deep spiritual wisdom that even the lowest in society can rise to the highest due to their own merits. She fights for the weak and the infirm as it is just to do so, anything less would be barbaric; and this she fights against.
As an archetypical personality she is impartial and unemotional in her search for truth; the whole truth and nothing but the truth will do. She will not tolerate exaggeration and drama; she keeps her inner balance to bring outer balance forward; she evaluates the given situation at hand with wisdom and knowledge, she seeks the facts and she acts with compassion and mercy for all involved. With her sword she cuts through lies and deceit; she sees through the ego of mankind; through the weaknesses of greed and lust.
Athena is the masculine force in all women; she represents a woman coming into the age of wisdom; when she sees through illusion and lies to the heart of the truth. This woman will not hide from the cold hard truth as she knows it is the only way to peace; even if the truth is initially painful at first, she understands it is necessary to face in order to find sincerity.
The Athena archetype is the intellectual, she is logical; she rises up civilization to bring a strong foundation for the sciences and the arts. She seeks clear communication and mediation; with her wisdom she shows clear discrimination; her objective is truth, as it is the only way to true peace and to bring about culture; wisdom and knowledge for the betterment and for the evolution of the human soul.
The world will try to keep you down
Some will tell you that you are crazy
Some will be so very cruel
Some will tell you who to be and what to do
Some will deliberately hurt you
YOU ARE STRONG!
You will stand up and live your dreams
You will stand up and you will scream
You will stand up and stomp your feet
You will be heard and be seen
You will be who God meant you to be
YOU ARE STRONG!
They may make you cry
They may make you wonder why
They may make you question everything
They may make you angry
They may make you fight
YOU ARE STRONG!
You do what is right
You make a difference in the world
You be true
You do what is right for everyone and you
YOU ARE STRONG!
Live in your heart
Live your dreams
Live your life
Live to be
Live be to free
YOU ARE STRONG!
Truly Loving You
To truly love you I must forgive the things that you do
I have to see and understand that you are imperfect just like me
To really love you I must accept all of you
I love you for you
To truly love you I must stand my ground
I cannot let you push me around
I have to set boundaries down
To love you I must teach you how to treat me
I love you in spite of you
To truly love you I must be happy without you
I have to know and love myself
I have to respect myself to respect you in return
To love you I must glow on my own
I love you and me too
To truly love you I must let go of the past
I have to be with you in the moment
To really love you we must move forward together
To love you I have to let go of you
I love you without condition
To truly love you I must see you past myself
I have to see you as an individual with a life of your own
To really love you I have to set you free
To love you I let you soar
I truly love you.
First off.. happy birthday to Gloria Steinem.. she is an Aries just like me.. it’s interesting that I a writing this post on her birthday.