Posts Tagged ‘fitness motivation’

EGO LIFTING; Gym drama

 

Ego lifting is lifting weights to impress other people in the room.. one way to tell and ego lifter is to watch how they preform when they don’t have an audience. If there are not as many people in the room they don’t perform.. and ego lifters have to out lift someone who is lifting heavier then them. Ego lifters don’t respect their own bodies, they don’t respect the iron nor do they respect the sport. I have seen this in both men and women; they lift to compete with the same sex and they lift to get attention from the opposite sex, if it be just their own girlfriend or boyfriend or every other opposite sex member in the gym. They brag constantly. Everyone has a right to be proud of their achievements in the gym.. and to tell others of their achievements, but with ego lifters it is relentless.. they lift to fill a hole, they don’t lift to love their bodies..secretly they hate something within themselves so they cover it up with muscle and bravado .. they are full of shit.. Ego lifters eventually hurt themselves while trying to impress others.. because THEIR FUCKING HEAD and HEART IS NOT IN THE LIFT!.. so they are going to fuck up..

Ego lifters cause gym drama due to their insecurities.. they posture, they threaten others with their body language..they make snide jokes, fuck everyone in the gym, and treat people like shit that don’t live up to their supposed level of fitness..they do not inspire others to work harder.. they discourage others by telling them they will never be able to reach their level of elite fitness.. they make fun of others body types, they group together in clicks.. I have seen trainer clicks like this.. working out together on their down time.. posturing.. swearing, showing off.. ego lifting the entire gym!.. But it’s just a matter of time until they fuck up and hurt themselves.. they don’t respect the steel.

Don’t be one of these fuckers.. lift for the sport, respect the metal.. respect your own body.. respect other members..

Go ahead and fucking grunt, lift heavy.. be proud of your accomplishments .. be proud, happy and satisfied..but be a good sport.. and remember someone started with little to no weight just like you.. everyone has their own story and injuries.. lift to become a better person from the inside out..

Don’t be a dick

Life at the gym; I am not fitting in

 

To get to the point, I am going to stop trying to be likable and acceptable at my gym and everywhere else for that matter.. because I don’t fit into traditional patterns of anything.. including how the fitness world views fitness.. including women’s fitness.

How I don’t fit in, in general it is my book, breaking taboos by going topless in the photography and talking candidly and maturely about women’s sexuality and my own broke with tradition.. in my fitness, I don’t fit in to a role..of say just someone coming to the gym to loose weight and be moderately fit, nor am I just doing it for looks.. I actually train like a competitor and or a trainer without being either.. how confusing not to fit into a category ..for those who follow group fitness themes.. but off I go being me, learning and taking from each and every sort of fitness.. that suits me.. because I don’t follow.. I lead..and I lead by example. Many members in my gym have told me that they love what I do and that I inspire them and get them fired up.. but I think .. I know that I make others uncomfortable..

Having the meeting with the management.. were they told me that my book and website were a threat to the gym’s professional reputation and the reputation of the owner of the gym.. put a stigma on to me, as to how the trainers and competitors in my gym see me as a professional threat to them and their professional and athletic reputations. Having it said to me in the meeting that I was spreading rumors..and that they were told by inside information that I was trying to smuggle photography out of the gym by suggesting a fitness calendar be made up.. maybe with me in it with the other fit women and other members in the gym.. only added to making me not trust anyone at the gym.. because who would say such things about me behind my back..but the one female fitness trainer that I told in depth..who then after the meeting posted a post on her twitter..saying ” I feel sorry for myself watching you feel sorry for yourself” when I confronted her about it on social media she told me to ” Drop it like a squat”.. once again I was meet with condescension. And the female competitors that I asked to be in the photography with me.. stopped showing up at the gym at the time I go to the gym..and stopped answering any of my facebook messages.. and stopped making eye contact with me at they gym.. pure avoidance and subterfuge. This is typical behavior for women and girls .. avoidance and then exclusion.. and then to have the photographer that I wanted to do the pics with show up at the time I go to the gym..to take images of women who are competitors and trainers.. to further show me how unacceptable I am..that I do not fit in to what is deemed as acceptable by gym society..

 

Further more.. I realized that I was the one who sent a friend request to all of them on facebook..that I am the only one who has reached out to any of them.. including my gym management and owner..to just be further excluded. I realize that these people are not my true friends.. because I cannot ask them for anything..and they would be embarrassed if I mentioned them on facebook..if I tagged them..and they will not like anything on my facebook.. even my fitness post.. there was only two of them that wished me a Happy Birthday..or hit like on the rare occasion.. I realize that I am giving my power away..by attempting to reach out..and reach out..and be friends with people who really don’t care about me at all.. even though I have seen them looking at my facebook regularly ..as they are up on my most recents list..but it seems I am but a strange and fascinating thing.. or maybe I am just fuel for further gossip.. and so I took them off of my facebook.. my power is eroded by this constant guessing.. by wondering.. but rumors have a way of returning back to the person who is the reason for the rumor..and of course once that happens who is to say what the truth is.. and so this is what I did to get my power back from a battle that I simply cannot win..

I unplugged, I stopped following my gym’s page.. I stopped following any of them on social media.. even the ones that seemed to be nicer than others.. not to be vengeful or hateful..but to be neutral..and to accept that it is what it is..whatever it is..it isn’t my business..

My business is going to the gym to workout..not to fit in and to try to convince others that I am a good person.. if they don’t see that I am then they don’t..

I am just going to workout and find my power in flying solo..

Drama free..

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