Posts Tagged ‘feminine Foes’

Competition is for the weak

 

The reason we compete is to gain the approval of others and to qualify ourselves as better than others.. the truly strong or empowered know they are their own competition. I am not just talking about sports.. I am talking about life. Since writing my blog and website I have had many women assume that I put my topless pictures online and have written about my sexuality simply to get male and media attention. I understand the assumptions and the confusion as many women and men use their sexuality online to compete against others and simply for the sake of attention.. like getting 15 min of fame.. like making stupid people famous.. becoming famous for showing tits and ass.. with no other reason except for the sake of deep rooted insecurities and immaturities. I used my nudity in a very calculated and intellectual way to promote natural sexuality and sexual health… to out sexual repression. Quite frankly when another woman poses herself as my competition online or in my daily life I think it is a ridiculous waste of her time and energy.. if she truly wants to be great she should just be herself.. if she truly wants to be great she should do something for humanity outside of herself.. and I think when other women compete against other women they are comparing themselves..if you are truly an empowered woman you know no one can compare to you..as you are unique.. I truly empowered woman is not a brand she is an icon.

In a competition you compete were your so called competitors are competing .. and you have accepted them as your competition by allowing it and accepting them as such.. the iconic run their own race..and metaphorically speaking; it’s a jump off a very high cliff..and they build their wings the way down… this isn’t a race against any competition.. no one else has racing numbers pinned to them.. running beside them ..with a predetermined start and finish line.. you see; for the iconic the finish line is their last breath.. it’s a risk of falling from grace.. to climb all the way back up to the top with a pack full of lessons.. when they plant that flag.. the flag of ” Fuck you ” fuck you.. to the ordinary.. the daily grind.. fuck you to the I wanna be just like them so I can fit in.. fuck you to coloring in the lines..fuck you to rules..fucking stupid rules that keep you on a track already defined by others.. defined by fear..and fuck you to fear.. NO FEAR!

I am not going to stand up in a line up of bikini clad women..who have stripped all the fat off their bodies to see who can look most like the mold ( white ) by white I mean the white entitled definition of beauty were every single women in a beauty contest has to try to look as European as possible.. break that fucking mold.. why the fuck do you want to look like everyone else? Why the fuck do you want to look like the most polished version of plastic crap? Real empowered women don’t compete against other women..they don’t do fashion shoots all lined up with their asses sticking out.. looking like a dime-a-dozen.. looking like they blend one into the other..” Take your pic..or fuck them all” nothing new here.. nothing different.. nothing exciting.. take a good look then move along and forget about it…nothing to remember here.. just the same old..same old ..same as it always was.. women dumbing themselves down to fit into the box.. to fit the mold of beauty lost..the beauty of imperfections and character.. it’s just plastic perfection and the projection of insecurities of women clawing over each other fake eyelashes and nails.. bleached blond, crunchy.. overly processed hair..

But you did something.. or so you think.. you got a trophy and a plastic crown to go with your plastic perfection.. you showed those other bitches who the best and biggest bitch is.. but you are lost.. lost in a rat-race, circle of competition.. lost your true self or any real message.. lost yourself in comparing apples to oranges.. trying to be one.. when you were a peach… but peaches are not trendy right now.. so you had to make yourself into what you are not… and so you blend right in.. all the magic in you lost for nothing… and what you won was the same thing the next girl will win..and you will blend into the pictures on the wall of tinsel fame..that means nothing at all..

It’s degrading.. it’s downgrading … it’s a chipping away of the perfectly/imperfect Goddess that you are..

To take this post in another direction.. I have recently been reading post on The Globe and Mail that feminists are starting to wear granny panties vs thong panties and they are not shaving their legs or arm pits..seems to me that feminist are also being placed into a box by media… it is to say that you have to follow this look of going against what is seen as typical beauty to be a feminist..as if being a feminist means being ugly .. like would you stop showering if it labeled you as a feminist by the media and the world? It is to say that you have to look like this mold or version of a feminist to be taken seriously in the world as a feminist.. well fuck that shit.. A feminist is who the fuck she wants to be.. a feminist is herself..

So write your own story.. create your own art..stop stealing from others.. be original..be an icon.. break the mold..color outside of the lines..wear your freckles with pride.. rock your curves.. be proud of your sexuality.. your own body.. take a leap of faith.. get off the beaten path.. free yourself of mediocrity..don’t be a carbon copy.

http://bookstore.balboapress.com/Products/SKU-000576933/The-Goddess-an-Expression-of-the-Divine-Feminine.aspx link to my book

Being a sexy mom

 

So I have this hater.. her name is Marlie LaMusick@OverAndAround on twitter.. she comments on my Youtube videos.. currently she is hitting all the unlikes that she can. But her thing is this.. because I am a mother expressing my sexuality.. Through the goddess movement.. my book, this website and blog, photography in the book and online..and through my erotic dancing and talks on Youtube..she thinks I am an unfit mother ..she commented on twitter and under my vids that my kids should be taken away from me by social services.. Yes she is a bitch. Yes a mean spirited, jealous prejudiced..slut shaming bitch. An old bitty!

But she is just one of many conservative fundamentalistic jerks that thinks this way.. steeped in religious dogma that teaches us that a woman’s virtue or the worlds virtue for that matter lives between our legs ladies..so that means you don’t own your own vagina ..society does by slut shamming you into submission..

Question for the old bitch… ” Where do you think babies come from?” That’s right vaginas.. another Question to the old lady that is ancient in her thinking.. quite barbaric actually.. ” Do you think my kids don’t know their mother has a vagina?” Another Question for the old bat ” Do you think that my daughters don’t know they have vaginas and that they came out of my vagina?”

She is so crazy..this thinking is so insane..it is so so so so so insane!

To think that once a woman becomes a mother she should button up and go all Mother Teresa? Seriously? That is everything that is wrong with her I am sure of it..has to be.

For me to nun-up you would have to put me in a coffin first..cause that will be the day I die.. I plan on being so sexy.. I leave behind a sexy corpse.. that’s right bite me nasty bitch.

You want your grand daughters to grow up in a world were they are sexually repressed and then blamed for their own rapes..for dressing just a little too sexy ( dressing too sexy or being too sexy is completely subjective to the observer btw dumbass) I mean a woman can look at a man the wrong way or say something in a subjectively sexy tone and be raped for asking for it.. think about it! WTF is wrong with you?

Stupid Stupid Stupid old bitty.. OMG.. it’s a good thing you dinos are on the way out.. extinction is much need here.. you got to go.. if you cannot evolve to better society and the world for the next up coming generations..just die please..do them a favor.. really! You want young men.. your grand sons to not be able to have real intimacy with a woman because they feel entitled to abusing her sexually because of the double standards imposed onto them and taught to them by social fucking norms that are anything but normal.. ya cause society teaches young men through media ( porn ) and just through the mainstream media feed of the objectification of women and GIRLS sexuality that women are OBJECTS..to be used and discarded at his will.. so because of that.. no real love or intimacy.. I wonder if she is grasping this.. prob not.. soooo time to meet The Grim Reaper.. we are done with your kind..so the sooner the better.. like you said yourself you nasty bitch ” No Mercy for her” ya karma takes a bite right? That’s what she thinks as a woman about another woman who is the single mother of three children..that because I express my sexuality ( I OWN IT BABY ) I deserve to hated/punished/shunned/shamed/ harassed/bashed/ and basically treated with all cruelty.. or quite frankly as less than a human being..that’s right I should be..or other women like me..should be dehumanized.. because we are trash.

That is everything that is wrong with the norms ( insanity of society ) it’s fucking crazy..and ya know what..this shit keeps up there will never be women’s equality.. not only with The Feminine Heart in society will be denied and killed off..but so will masculinity..because men cannot be real men if they are not protecting women..if they are raping/murdering/demoralizing/ abusing women in anyway..they are doing exactly the opposite of what real men do.. real men.. love, respect and protect women.. not just the women in their circle but all women.. that’s why we have the whole LUMBER SEXUAL thing going on because men wish for the hero in them to rise up..they miss their masculine romance.. they wish to be the man who has that heart connection with a woman or women.. with shaming the female sex.. the male sex is has also lost it’s balance..and we miss out on love and courtship..by suppressing the beauty of feminine sexuality..

Our children need us to express the fullness of who we are so that they can also have that to role model after..

I am sure my stalker.. hater didn’t understand I word I just wrote..but I know I  am helping who I am meant to help.. like other moms..and men who want to reconnect with women.. who seek real intimacy through equal partnership.

Bitchy, Mean Girls

http://kelownawomeninbusiness.blogspot.ca/2012_09_01_archive.html

 

Bonita and I met at a Goddess Party.. held by a woman who really didn’t understand what it meant to be a Goddess.. turns out the Goddess movement in Kelowna is pretty wishy-washy.. just like Kelowna.. When I read from my book at the party..full of women.. I was hushed..as I was reading a piece from my book about religious repression of women’s sexuality and religious repression against sexuality as a whole.. The Goddess is all about women’s sexuality, exploring women’s sexuality and about women expressing their sex through the archetypes of all the ancient Goddesses.. but not in a bible belt.. in a bible belt speaking about such things is offensive..and so I was shushed.. while the other women went on to sing their songs..and read their writings .. I was hurt and shocked.. at the repression and the immaturity of these grown women.. but Bonita wanted to meet with me..

The next day.. we walked together down the lake front to go and have our dinner meeting.. it was October 2012.. it was a full moon that night.. during our walk I made a joke about loving to be naked..as I am topless on my website.. right away I saw Bonita cringe.. she didn’t get the joke..and she said something as to how it made her uncomfortable.. I could sense the stick up her ass..but my curiosity got the best of me.. I wanted to know what this was all about.. She started to tell me on our walk that other women were uncomfortable with my body language .. that I had a raw sexuality about me that they found threatening.. she told me that other women would fear for their husbands around me.. she said ” See how other women grab onto their men when you walk by?” She said..” You should dress like me, like a professional..than other women will not be offended and men will take you seriously.”

I thought ” This is going to be interesting..and this is getting catty and bitchy… I wonder what she will say during dinner.. ?” I just had to know.. this was fucked up..

During dinner.. she told me that other women she knew ( meaning Kelowna Women In Business) wouldn’t want to network with me with “those pictures on your website” She told me that I was seen as a whore..she then went into the etymology of the world.. going back to German roots.. saying it meant a lewd, prostitute.. VULGAR.. She told me that I was sexually injured.. that my chakras were all lower energy.. meaning I live in my crotch.. that I am not spiritually tuned into the universe like she is.. that I am not as evolved as she is..

She told me that if I wanted to network in Kelowna with women in Kelowna that I had to button up.. wear a dress suite.. be just like them to fit in and not be seen as a threat.. she told me TO STOP WEIGHT LIFTING!!! She said I should have a yoga body like hers..she told me that my muscle is a threat and not feminine to men..she told me I threatened men by my warrior like energy..that I am too strong, my personality is a turn off to men..because I have such a hard body..that women and men are both threatened ..

It became clear to me that she was speaking for Kelowna Women In Business..and it seemed as if Melonie Dodaro had sent her with instructions.. ” Get her to blend or push her out.”

With that cattiness and bitchiness coming at me I intentionally planted a seed.. just to see if it would grow into a rumor .. I thought ” I will give them something to talk about” I have had that mischief in me since I can remember.. it amuses me to tinker with small minds and fearful people.. so I told Bonita that I had slept with a married man.. I told her I did it just to see what the power trip would feel like.. I thought ” If they are so afraid for their husbands this rumor should spread like wild fire.” So I wonder.. did it? I bet as soon as she left me she got on her phone texting ” What a slut..she does sleep with married men.”

Anyway.. I wasn’t root chakra damaged before the meeting with Bonita..but I was afterwards..and I still am.. I hope writing this helps me heal.. I haven’t been with a man since or even really tried to date.. This entire experience of attempting to network with such cruel people.. has made me feel like there isn’t any love in this city..there certainly has been any for me..

I am including a piece from Psychology today about Feminine Foes.. why women do this sort of shit to other women..

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-therapy/201401/feminine-foes-new-science-explores-female-competition?tr=HomeEssentials

“”According to Benenson, a common way women deal with the threat represented by a remarkably powerful or beautiful woman is by insisting on standards of equality, uniformity, and sharing for all the women in the group and making these attributes the normative requirements of proper femininity.

Third, in extreme cases women may guard against potential competitors by means of social exclusion. If a new attractive woman shows up in the neighborhood (or school, or club), all the women in attendance may turn their backs on her, compelling her to withdraw from the scene, thus increasing their own chances with the surrounding males.”" ~Psychology Today

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