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Open Letter to the Canadian RCMP

Update – soon after sending this email and posting this to my blog I was called by the police inspector and given a verbal apology.
This is a modified email that I sent out the Vernon Police Inspector
I don’t expect any action from the police due to the fact that it is clearly a boy’s club. Just going by my own personal experiences thought my life and by seeing how other women around me, including my own mother have been treated by the RCMP I am expecting no real justice.
Reading the popular media, in the last year a Canadian judge told a rape victim in court that she should of just kept her legs together and just recently a female officer quit her job of 14 years of trying to educate the male force towards sexual harassment and discrimination. The female officer quit her job due to sexual harassment and discrimination. Clearly this is a boy’s club and obviously my complaints and my story will be covered up.
Inspector ********* left me a phone message saying that Cost. ******** who delivered the letter to me for the gym owner Peter ******** was inappropriate but he is a young officer so he didn’t really know any better. This is clearly an excuse. As an officer of the law it is his duty to be impartial and to serve the law not the boy’s club at Peter’s gym. It is the duty of the police force to protect me as a woman against sexual discrimination and harassment, not to further harass me for the retired police officer Len; who not only asked me how much for sexual favors but it was his and the owner’s intention to scare me out of the unisex area and out of the gym, so that they could continue to further discriminate against other female members without being held accountable. The owner’s language and those of his friends that participate, is the language of hate speech. Peter clearly stated in the video that he wanted the guys down stairs to be able to talk about what ever they wanted, that includes bashing other religions, races, cultures, gays and women. Clearly this is against human rights and this man shouldn’t be able to legally run a business that is based on discrimination and harassment of those who don’t meet his personal specifications. Peter should not have a business licence and should not be serving the public as we all know hate speech and discrimination cause hate crimes like what just happened in Quebec.
If I as a woman, cannot give a statement to the RCMP about sexual harassment with out the police coming back onto me, in my home, invading my personal life and privacy; how than can any woman report even more serious crimes like rape?
The police have terrorized me. I don’t feel safe in my own home. The date rape that I buried subconsciously has now risen to the surface of my awareness; and I am experiencing emotionally all the effects of deep trauma. I am so glad that I did not report my date rape to the police here in Armstrong BC, six years ago as I am sure I would of been blamed for being in the wrong place at the wrong time. I had physical injuries due to the rape but I am sure it would of been written off by the police as just rough sex. It seems to me that the police protect men and their reputations over women and their rights to be treated with respect and dignity.
After Constable ******** left me with the letter and his horrible condescending attitude of threatening me with arrest should I trespass back into the gym, I was left feeling hopeless and suicidal. I felt and I was punished by the police for daring to make a statement of sexual harassment and sexual discrimination against a retired police officer and a male gym owner. Obviously these men are of more importance to the police and to the law than I am as a woman. Obviously it is criminally offensive for a woman to dare to stand up to sexual harassment and obviously female police officers find the same fate within the system.
We are living in very sad and sorrowful times are we not?
Inspector ********* has left a message with me as has Les ****** of the Enderby police department. I have returned their messages but I have not been called back.
It would be just and right if the police gave me a public apology towards their own actions of not following proper procedure instead of making excuses and attempting to bury it under red tape and paper work. I think that the intent is that I will give up hope and drop it, and that I will just get on with my life. It seems to me the intention is to rip away my self worth and to induce hopelessness so that the matter doesn’t have to be properly addressed by the RCMP.
Going by what is happening Canada wide and by the tone of how the world treats women and their rights.. I am sure all women will be continued to be treated as property and second class citizens. It doesn’t seem to matter if you live by the letter of the law, pay your taxes and respect authority as clearly male based authority doesn’t respect women in general.
I have put ********* into the names to protect privacy and so that the law doesn’t once again come back onto me. I am publishing this to protect myself should the police further discriminate against me as retaliation or punishment, and to also show the truth should the gym owner have members make up false stories to cover himself.

Why is feminism becoming the F-word?

First off.. happy birthday to Gloria Steinem.. she is an Aries just like me.. it’s interesting that I a writing this post on her birthday.

 

Definition of feminism
noun

 

1.

the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.
2.

(sometimes initial capital letter) an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women.
3.

feminine character.
As you can see the definition is pretty simple. But for some reason I am finding a new definition of feminist online.. and it is a bitter, man hating, ball breaking bitch. It seems that women seeking equality are branded as wanting to destroy men or take away the rights and freedoms of men by gaining equality. I suspect the reason that feminism and feminist are being labeled as the new F-word is based on fear. All bigotry is based on fear. It seems men who label feminist as ball breaking bitches fear that giving women the same earning power and sexual freedoms would make them less as men.  One can reason that they glean their manhood by the control of women. It seems that in order for true equality to take up root and grow,  men need a different definition of manhood. That definition would change from being commander and chief of his woman .. family or community towards building true partnership and community by the equal sharing of responsibilities.  If a man defines his masculinity by violence, brutality.. being unemotional and in control of everything and everyone around him.. he will see a woman seeking equality as a subordinate seeking to undermine his manhood. A man who defines himself through control and power over others as being a man.. will see a feminist as a threat and then punish her and demean her to get back said control. I think that is why many women fear stating or standing as feminist…because they fear the punishments inflicted on them my macho alpha males.. I know this for fact.. So many women will bash feminism and feminist to gain male approval and protection from this punishment.
Feminist are also bigoted by how they are perceived to look..I have been told that I am too feminine or pretty to be a feminist..I have had both men and women inform me of this. I have been told feminist dress like men, where no makeup… look like butches and are lesbians. The stereotyping is insane!
Many people don’t realize that men can also be feminist..and not be overly feminine in appearance. Any man that stands for, believes in and seeks out justice and equality for women is a feminist.
Feminist want control over their own minds and bodies.. just the same as men. We want access to safe abortions and birth control. We don’t want to be slut shamed for our sexual history, we don’t want to be judged as sluts for dressing sensual.. our bodies, our choices.. just the same as men.
It’s really simple stuff actually.. we are tired of religious dogma trapping our wombs and bodies with the outdated concepts of the world’s virtue and purity being placed on our sexuality..we are sick of our sex and sex lives, or virginity..or lack of it..being used to place worth upon us.
We are really sick and tired of entire industries holding us captive by using.. and over sexing or bodies to sell product..industries that are run by macho men .. telling us what to look like and how to present our sex to them to please them and not ourselves.. we are tired of being owned by our husbands.. by industry and religions. We want to make equal pay and have equal say so that we are not bound to abusive men by  the necessities of financial survival.
If you are a woman and you want to see these things happen in your life time.. if you are a man and you want to see these things happen in your life time.. if you are a person who wants to see equality in your lifetime for yourself and for future generations.. you are a feminist… you are not a bad word..
You are a decent human being.

Why men fear feminism

 

I have been talking to a lot of my male friends about this topic, younger, older, married, single.. some with blue collar jobs and some quite wealthy.. this was the main and the foremost reason given..

MEN FEAR FEMINISM BECAUSE THEY FEAR LOOSING POWER AND PRIVILEGE BECAUSE POWER , CONTROL,LEADERSHIP, AND DOMINANCE ARE SOCIETIES DEFINITION OF MANHOOD OR WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MAN.

So the answer to this problem is to redefine manhood. But that is a big problem, because that means we need to completely turn society on it’s ear. Because religion creates traditional beliefs  ( like men being the head of the household ) and puts these traditional beliefs into politics, that influence law and justice, governments and all social structures; including media that objectifies women and butchers the ideal of feminism into man hate. This fear ( man hate ) further propels us into a war of the sexes ( that is competition instead of co-operation ) between the sexes.

Men are taught to compete through sports and business; as we see a traditional media headline as MEN,POLITICS,SPORTS & BUSINESS 

 

So what does a guy do when he sees a woman as competing against his power and control but to attempt or to power and control over her, as men are socially conditioned to believe that they are entitled to this power and control. Men also have the added pressure from other men to keep power and control away from women, not to be powered over or controlled by women or he will be judged by other men as not living up to his manhood.

Now adding sex to the equation .. men are taught by society to objectify women, that having many women at hand makes them more of a man; so when a woman does the same as a man she is controlled by society by slut shaming towards making her way back into traditional roles. When a woman is in her sexual power; or being the same as a man, and not answering to the double standards she is then feared as disrespecting manhood in general. Men also see women asserting their sexuality as being sexually manipulative; using their sex to confuse and control him..and so he will view that as further competition against his manhood, as they say rape is about power and control not about the sex. For many men the sexual turn on has become the power, control and abuse of a woman way before the actual act of sexual intercourse. So when women want sexual freedom it is seen as a direct assault against his manhood, and that is why women worldwide are punished by society by the control of their sexuality. She is seen as having it coming to her for daring to compete.

So if this definition of manhood is the root cause of social strife, lack of justice and the evolution of the human condition; we need to redefine manhood as men protecting women. It seems to be deep within men’s biology to serve; to serve a purpose, that purpose being a higher purpose is to uphold and protect women and children not to power and control over them.

I think the biggest injustice to men; towards this old pattern of macho behaviors, is that it keeps men from becoming team players and builders, instead it teaches men to destroy as they concur for the pure sake of conquest.

If the war of the sexes continues the heart of humanity will die; it is dying, we need to evolve for the pure sake of psyche or soul.

As women we need to be firm but gentle with our men and boys; by understanding there is a shift of consciousness happening now, in these times. This evolution or change; growth can be a painful process for humanity; by placing blame upon each other we solve nothing. What we should be doing is learning from the problems, but not focusing on the problems; we need to be working as a team or as a whole by focusing on the solutions.

If I Was Born With A Dick

 

 

This is an ode to Dick

All my life I have been envious of boys and men.. I have seen how much freer men are..and so this little parody that is and isn’t so funny.. goes like this..

 

If I was born with a dick I would be the Present..the Prime Minister .. I wouldn’t be his sweet little wife that you see pumping out his babies.. you would all be listening to me because I can stand up when I pee.

 

If I was born with dick I could bang every chick.. I could act like prick..and be known as the stud that likes to fuck.. not like girls and women who like it..you know them as sluts..

 

Ohh ya to be born with a dick!

 

If I was born with a dick I would have all the capital..because as they say capital is a gentle man.. even if men act like they are living playboy..even if I treated women as toys..

 

If I was born with a dick I wouldn’t have to worry about equal pay because the world would be my oyster and everything would swing my way.. ya swing..

 

If I was born with a dick I wouldn’t have to be concerned about traveling alone.. I could walk alone in the night and not think about not making it home..

 

If I had a dick I could walk in public topless and not be concerned about being arrested..or molested..

 

Ohh to have a dick!

 

If I had a dick I could leave the chick with all of my kids.. and get away with highway robbery if she came after me for alimony..I would lie during testimony..

 

If I was born with a dick if I didn’t want to have kids that would be my business..not so if I was a chick.. I’d be a selfish bitch.

 

If I was born with a dick.. you could all suck it

;)

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