Madonna/Whore or Woman


In sexual politics the view of women as either Madonnas or whores limits women’s sexual expression, offering two mutually exclusive ways to construct a sexual identity.[4] The duality implies that women must assume subservient roles, either as madonnas to be protected or as whores to be punished by men.[5]

The term is also used popularly, often with subtly different meanings.

A man with a madonna-whore complex is a man who will sleep with and lust for a sexual and beautiful woman but he will never respect her as “wife” material and he will never marry her. In his eyes, she is tainted, impure, unworthy of the status of wife—yet he may possess passionate and contradictory feelings for her. He may even be in love with her but will never allow himself to be with her in any real sense.
He will look for a “good girl” to marry—usually a woman who is cold sexually but, for example, is good at “wifely” domestic things: cooking, cleaning, homemaking in general, etc. A proper, pure “madonna” type woman who will bear his children.
Tony Soprano all the way.

These are the two categories women fear the most. The Madonna role puts women into the role of servant and martyr or the role of Whore makes a woman trash. Both roles undermine women as they cut out the very foundation of her own personal power. These roles cause women to shrink under the influence of how she will see herself through his definition of soon as he has the ability to define her by her sexuality she is made powerless..because she is both of these aspects in the positive.. meaning, as the Madonna she is the giver of life..a mother and wife; but as the Whore she is a willing and exuberant participant in the bedroom..

It has been shown to me directly within my own city how these roles take center in our Canadian Conservative conventional society; we still stand by these old, outdated social stigmas to control and manipulate women ( over half the population) by shaming and labeling women into these categories out of lack of insight.. ignorance and with some intentional malice ( the intent to over power) and so the stigmas hold fast.

It was shown to me through my experiment on facebook as Tom Wills and anyone with some sense of comprehension can see how society ( Media) has shamed Lori Welbourne for her not so topless youtube video.

Even other women fear to associate with women like Lori and I ..because they fear being tipped over into the Whore category.. by being put into this category is to endure total lack of respect from other’s in society.. hence the absolute control over women should they not fit into this distorted so called social norm..

Why is it that a society run mainly by male based authority fears the fall of the Whore/Madonna complex… because it is the unknown.. it is the fear of it is subconsciously believed that she holds the keys to the gates of virtue.. if she was to expose the wholeness of herself..and bridge the gap with this duality.. then so must he grow into the fullness of his nature and take full responsibility for his learn to control his lust by not being allowed to put her into the victim role of Madonna/Whore.

And so a conspiracy is born..because religion and media has learned how to manipulate the fear of women.. the fear of the good women not to be able to keep her man away from the bad women..the sex symbol vs the virtuous.. and by doing so selling her sex back to her in a more socially acceptable FASHION.. women are controlled and manipulated into feeling that they will never quite measure up to media induced hype of the perfect women..also this causes women to turn on one another we are taught to see other women, who express their sexuality as threat towards seducing our men away..

It will be women; who stop this more and more come out of the closet to live in the truth of their sexuality … freely express it. But of course this is a fight..and it takes intense strength and endurance..but women are both of these qualities.